As you know I am telling my H on Saturday. My ? is my aunt is taking the baby for a while, she doesn't know yet why, I just told her to give me and H sometime alone. How do I go about re-introducing the baby back into the house?

RY:<P>I don't know your husband, but are you afraid he won't let the baby back into the house??? I can't imagine that to be the case, but if he does, you should have an alternate plan to either stay somewhere else, or have a place for your husband to stay.<P>I'm assuming that your husband has bonded with this child already. I'm sure that he's going to be in shock, but unless he has a violent streak, I doubt that the child will ever be in danger. If your husband does have a past history of violence, then I suggest that you tell him in a way that will insure your safety (counselor, public place, friend nearby).

He does have a temper, but he has never touched one of us in anger. I am just concerned that bringing the baby into the house will start something. I don't know almost like seeing her and realizing she does look like OM. Like confiming what I told him.

RY:<P>Then after you tell him, you'll need to discuss (together) how to deal with this aftermath. The first issue should be whether you can all live under the same roof or not. I'd suggest that you encourage it, unless he can't deal with it.<P>RY, if you can possibly afford it (even if it's a stretch), I'd suggest that you call the MB counseling center and get an appointment (tell them it's an emergency). The number is 888-639-1639. Discuss your situation with either Steve or Jenn Harley---they can help you formulate a plan. If the plan is to tell your husband this weekend, they have been known to stay on "call", if your husband wants to discuss this situation with them.<P>By doing this, you will be demonstrating that you're serious about wanting to save your marriage. It would be, IMO, the best thing you could offer your husband right now.<P>