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It has been four weeks since we went to court nothing was settled then and we havent heard ANYTHING from anybody, ow, either lawyers<BR>Keep your fingers crossed that she decided not to pursue this stuff!!!!!<BR>I wish so much that we never had the test (Paternity) done<BR>what i didn't know for sure couldn't hurt me so bad<BR>I cant get past this stage of wondering WHY???<P>maybe feeling sorry for myself???<BR>my name says it all and i struggle daily with waht to do if it is worth it to have to feel this pain regularly<BR>every time i see a baby, go past the diapers at walmart, see a pregnant lady...<P><BR>It all seems so stupid, could have , should have been so easily preventable<BR>one mistake to change the entire course of the rest of your life, financially, emotionally.<P>
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Hi N_B_S, (former name "IT THE SOUTH")<P>I too had the same feeling. I could not watch a TV show that had a pregnant woman on it or see a show that had people committing A. I would get upset at seeing a pregnant women or seeing a tiny baby.<P>But, I survived and got over it. At times the "ping" comes back (when H and I are watching a show".<P>Now I look at children clothes and toys and want to buy something for the oc's (I have 2 oc--same OW, 11mths apart).<P>And yes it could have been prevented, but GOD gives us objects/problems/situations to overcome and grow stronger in life and happiness.
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never-be-same,<P>the pain gets less and less over time. i used to cringe when i saw t.v. shows that showed people having affairs, and when a girl cheating on her H at work, i just wanted to grab her and talk some sense in to her. i could barely stand to speak to her though. <P>glory and praise is right though. life is full of challenges and for everyone it is different. this is ours. how we overcome them, and make the most of what we do have in life, is what is important.<P>take care. these thoughts get less frequent. prayers for you.<P>happy_girl
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NBS,<P>Just wanted to give you my support. You are right...you will never be the same, but with God and time, you will be better. I never believed it when I saw people on here saying that, but now I am beginning to see it in my marriage. You are in my prayers...<P>Love<P>bw
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I agree with Happy Girl & Broken Wings. You will never be the same. You will be better if you want to be better. You may be worse if you allow this to eat up your soul. Take the option of being better. Take the high road that OW did not take and take control of your life. It can be done. You can be happy again. <P>Take care... Carolyn
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Thanks so much for your kind words and understanding<BR>i odnt think i would be sane if i didn't have this forum to come and release my thoughts and read that other people have actually survived this hell
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