I did it, it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. There was alot of crying, talking, ?'s, hugging. We decided to stay together and he wants to coninue to raise Hannah. He wants to find out what OMW wants to do. I had to call her and tell her only b/c my H was on the phone to OM and he started threathing suicide and I had to tell her what was going on. My H did the most amazing thing, not only did he talk OM into not doing it but he went to OM job ans followed him him, idiot was crying like a baby, sad. My H came home we talked some more. I feel so much better that he knows, but I didn't want to be the one who spoke w/ his W. She was amazingly pleasent, if you can call it that. Anyways I did it!

I am glad that you got this all out in the open.. The next little while will be like a roller coaster ride so hang on tight to what matters most to you, in the end you, your H and your marriage will come out on top..

I'm so glad that things went well on D-Day. I'm really glad that you told him and that he took it so well.<P>As smiles said, there will still be some bad times in the future--that's the rollercoaster--but you two have a chance at something great.<P>ALL the best to you and your family!<BR>--HBC

Dear Regretfully yours,<P>It is wonderful that your husband took the news well and even dealt hands-on with the OM and his wife. Like smilesatlife said, you will be riding a rollercoaster of emotions for a while, but pledging to ride it together will make the ride a lot easier.<P>Just remember that you made a mistake but are truly deserving of happiness. You are a very lucky woman to have a husband who is understanding and is willing to fight to save the marriage. <P>Good luck to you both. You will be in my prayers.<BR>love,<BR>heavenly

i am happy for you<BR>god luck keep the communication going.

i just wanted to say that i am glad that you have finally told your husband. it has to feel better to finally have it out in the open. prayers for you and your H, that you can make your marriage stronger from this. we all make mistakes, it is how we get past them, and repair them that is important. your marriage can make it. just takes lots of hard work.<P>happy_girl

RY,<P>Hi there! I just wanted to let you know that I am glad you are finally out in the open. Do you feel a little more free of yourself? I will be praying for you and your H. And Om and his W. Im also very very glad to here about H's reaction. Just please remember this is still raw to him and he will sometimes make you wonder if he is psychotic...lol...my H did and probably still does. Be gentle with him.<P>Love and Prayers<P>bw

Dear Regretfully Yours,<P>I am SO happy that it went so well for you!!! I understand the fear that you felt in telling your H. I am glad that he has chosen to continue to be Hannah's Daddy.(What a beautiful name!) You will both be blessed. I would suggest you having him come here, if he is comfortable. My H and a few others are in his shoes, and could be of great help to him with questions and such. The names I can think of off the top of my head are K, Sailorman59(my H), GLynton, Floored, and Middleman. I would also recommend getting some of the Harley's books, if you haven't done so already. It will help the both of you immensely to understand the possible reasons this happened in the first place, and give you help in keeping if from happening again. Even if things seem to be great right now, don't slip back into that rose colored glasses trance. You will need to continue to work on your marriage, and rebuilding your H's trust in you. Keep those lines of communication open at all times, even if it seems to be too painful.<P>Again, Congratulations on a successful D-day with your H. Keep posting with any ?'s or if you have something to vent about.<P>Tigger

I'm so happy to hear it's out in the open with you two now Regretfully Yours.<P>I know that had to be hard but also you can begin new again since H is so willing.<P>Best wishes and prayers.<P>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Regretfully Yours,<BR>Good for you that had to take a lot of strenth but you came through and so did your h. I hope everything works out for your family. You must feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off your sholders. With love flowerseed

What a wonderful man you are married to! Please make every effort to work together and repair your marriage. I am sure it had issues (they all do). But a marriage that can withstand this type of storm has some damm good points to it. It would have to. <P>Take care... Carolyn