I've noticed alot of 'hostility' around here lately. I've been gone for quite awhile and I come back and find...I'm not real sure actually. Anyone care to fill me in?

Paul,<P>There have been quite a few "crashers" here lately, which has made many of us suspicious of some of the new posters here. You may have noticed that we now have moderators, which stopped most of the MAJOR stuff. We were all under attack, and one person in particular received some very hurtful posts/threads directed at her. We have been trying to get back to what we had before, but it has been a difficult journey. I hope you continue to post again. I have been reading the posts between you and K. I am in your wife's position, as far as I have had a child from OM, and my H is raising her as his own child. You may remember him, Sailorman59? We have been working on our marriage, and have started going back to church. I think that was one of the major problems for both of us was we weren't going to church at all. It just opened that door to Satan, and boy did he ever move in!! Anyway, since your posts to K, I have been praying for your situation. I am sorry that you have had such strife with your W having yet another A, and so soon after the baby was born. I haven't posted about it, because I really don't know what to say. Hopefully things will start to get better here now. We need to use those moderators to help us get there.<P>Tigger

K has been some what of a "mentor" for me. Keeps me 'honest'.<P>I'm saddened to hear about all the "mess". I don't think I can do anything to help that situation. Hopefully I can be of help to some though, they have surely helped me.<P>Perhaps this will be another problem that time and patience will heal.<P>------------------<BR>1Co:2:4: And my speech and my preaching was not with enticing words of man's wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power:<BR>1Co:2:5: That your faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God.

HI Paul,<BR>I am one of the "crashers" I dont know what has happened he in the past..but I came here for support...but I do have a different view...about OC..I have hung on the Cross...My name MyCRoss was because my mom always said everyone has a cross to bear and I guess this is mine....I have been humilated on this Fine "Christian" forum ..called a liar..and a few other chioce names...because I said I say hate in the posts...I give up..I dont belong...and I am leaving...I wonder how many others they "weed" out...I Pray to God they are as strong in their faith as I...I am afraid what they will do to someone without God...It is ashame...Nice to meet you...amd I am sorry...I felt the OC was just that a child...and deserved loved..no matter how conceived...I am a BW with a H who has a 8 month old OC ...I just hate her...I feel bad about the whole thing...and I am hurt..and I have no plsce to go...but I think she deserves good people in her life...and I think I am..and ..anyway...that is what has happen...bad me...I have not reached the hate thing yet

MyCross: I'm reminded of a story I heard once, perhaps you've heard it, bare with as some may not have...<P>We all do have our cross to bare. One day a man was walking along, thinking about his life. He was so sad and depressed, he felt he could not go on. The man cried out to the Lord "Lord I have served you all my life and you promised not to give me more than I could handle. I thank you for what I have but I can not bare this load you have given me." The Lord replied to the man asking what he would have him to do. The man asked if he could possibly trade ihs cross for another, one that he could handle. The Lord told the man, sure, if that is what you want. Suddenly the man was in a large room. All around him were crosses of various sizes. Some big some small. "Where am I?" Replied the man. Jesus told him, these are the crosses of all my followers, pick the one that you would bare. Right in the middle of the room stood a cross so immense that he could not see the top of it, the man shuddered, "Who's cross was that?" Jesus looked at him with all the love that He is and replied "That one is not for you, the one that bore that cross had the weight of the entire world on his shoulders. He died so that you could live." Saddened the man looked down and so a tiny cross leaning on the large cross. It was smaller than all the others. "That's the one I want, Lord. Can I have it? I think I could bare that cross for you." The Lord smiled at him, raised an eye-brow and said "Why my child would you want the same cross that you brought in here?"<P>Not the exact 'repeating' but close enough that you get the gist. Through all this and other stuff I have learned that anger and hatred are the easiest emotions to deal with. Of course you hate OC. Of course you are angry with your H. That's the easy part. Why? Why do you hate OC? I'm not downing you, just curious. There are always underlying feelings to anger and hatred. I have never seen a case where they are the base feeling. Hurt, pain, betrayal, distrust, lost hope, all can lead you to where you are. Stick around, we'll all try not to offend each other and help one another. Agreed?<P>------------------<BR>1Co:2:4: And my speech and my preaching was not with enticing words of man's wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power:<BR>1Co:2:5: That your faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by MyCross:<BR><B>but I think she deserves good people in her life...and I think I am</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Try to understand before you disagree with how people conduct their lives. <P>As a side note, please also realize that if you continue to hate the OC's mother, more than likely, you will not be able to be good influence in the OC's life. When you can let your hate and disdain for the other woman go, then get involved. I'm not saying you have to like her, but surely, you could let go of the hate for her using your "Christian" beliefs of not hating and forgiving as backup. <P>Just food for thought.<P>Take care,<BR>CoR

I think you misunderstood me for a different poster...What started this is that I came here looking for OTHER SITES...<BR>I knew this was not for me...I do not hate the OC...I feel NOTHING for the OW...I have a variety of mixed emotions fof H...it was me questioning the hate here that started this...I did not mean too...I just wanted referrals...that is it...and the story of the cross was pretty good...That is how I picked my name...It is how I feel right now...

MyCross: Ok, I hope that somewhere here you find what you need. I've always been told by my pastor that not every sermon is meant for every person. But you go and listen because the one you miss might be the one for you. Read the posts, reply to the ones that you find beneficial or that you have a particular insight on. Perhaps you'll find what you are after.<P>Good Luck and God Bless<P>------------------<BR>1Co:2:4: And my speech and my preaching was not with enticing words of man's wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power:<BR>1Co:2:5: That your faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God.