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#797682 05/02/01 06:13 AM
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Blue,<BR>I think I read in one of your post that your dad had a oc and you found out when you where 17 if so could you tell us how it was explained to you? This is something alot of us really have had a lot of thoughts on. Thanks with love flowerseed

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I was riding in the car with my Mom. I can't remember what preceded the actual confession, but my Mother said first that my Fahter had had a long term affair with her best friend, a woman I knew very well and that the child, whom I was also very familiar with, played with her when she was a baby was my Father's. I was 17. It all came tegether then. I remember my Mother ,years prior to this, sitting at home while my Fahter was "out" crying and upset, She relied on me to be her support system. I was 10. I tried to comfort her through all of the fights and upheaval ,never really understanding what was wrong. Little did I know that he was having a very intense ,long term affair with her best friend. At the moment I was told, I remember feeling a bit relieved because I finally knew what was wrong all of those years. I wasn't angry with the ow becasue my mother always loved her and never really showed any animosity towards her. She loved her as a best friend first, so she couldn't just turn off those feelings. She helped her with her pregnancy and after the baby was born,even though she already had 2 other children with her husband. My mother is very kindhearted. But as far as wishing I would have been told earlier? I don't think I would have understtod at 6,7 or 8 years old. My older brothers knew ,but atr that time we have been living away from them for years. My half sister, found out about this about 5 years ago. She was given my phone number by her mother. I have mixed feelings towards having a sisterly relationship with her. If she persued it , I would probably try to establish one, but I will definately wait for her to initiate.<P>

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Blue ,<BR>Thank you for taking the time. So if we explain this in a way that our child sees that we have forgiven the ow then it looks like they will not have as much of a problem with it as I have though. Thank you so much with love flowerseed


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