Hi,<P>Although I primarily post on another board, I lurk on this one from time to time. After reading some posts this morning, I've decided to come out of hiding and post something I learned along the way. Hopefully, it'll help. <P>One thing every person here should remember is this:<P>When it pertains to OC issues, you do not, under any circumstances, have to defend your thoughts, feelings, actions or non-actions to any person on this earth. They are what they are and if another person does not agree, that is NOT your problem. <P>Not all of us will take the same road, but what all of us should try to do is understand there isn't just ONE road. There are many. Not one road is right and not one is wrong. We each have to do what we feel is the right way according to our own situations. <P>Don't let others deny you your right to think the way you feel is the right way for you. Don't let other's harsh words nterfere with your healing process. You've been through hell on earth already. Make the rest is a piece of cake. <P>With this, I'll go back to lurking and wish all of you peace of mind.<P>Take care,<BR>CoR <p>[This message has been edited by Couple_of_Reasons (edited May 02, 2001).]

Dear CoR,<P>I wish you would consider being active -- that was a very short but powerful post you just sent!<P>Ironically you have written the things that I was feeling -- that I am being denied my rights here lately. But, you are so correct -- no one can TAKE my rights from me, I have to give them up.<P>So, with that said, I think I will stand strong with my feelings and thoughts and NOT feel the need to defend anything. Thank you for the reminder and post sometime -- you sound like a very wise lady.<P>love,<BR>heavenly

STOP ! CoR don't go away ! You know me as Deb from that other board and I believe you can be a valuable member here as well. You always experess yourself so well. Please hang around when you can.<P>------------------<BR>Deb<P>Hepatitis C, Please educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://www.hepatitis-central.com/<P>In" TARGET=_blank>http://www.hepatitis-central.com/<P>In</A> memory of a very dear friend <A HREF="http://fathom.org/teemingmillions/wally.adp" TARGET=_blank>http://fathom.org/teemingmillions/wally.adp</A>

Dear Couple of Reasons,<BR>I am the opposite of you. I post here, but have lurked on the other board on a few occasions. I really cant post in both places because then I wouldn't have time for anything else - I spend way to much time in front of the computer as it is.<P>But I have to tell you that I have read your posts over there and found SO MUCH of what you said to be extremely valuable. I truly wish you could carve out some time to be here too. your posts have gone right to my core and touched me so many times.<BR>cd

Heavenly, Deb and CD,<P>First and foremost, thank you so very much for your kind replies. Being the internet is what it is, I often wonder if my words are for naught or if any feelings I express are truly helping someone. I honestly want all in the same position to know they are not alone. That itself is an awful feeling. To know some of you have understood my rambling posts means a lot to me and also makes me feel not so alone. <P>As I said, I lurk from time to time here and still post on the other board, but not as frequently. The affair part of the ordeal has come to a close (for the most part) and I'm ready to center my focus on the one issue which has no true closure - that of the OC. So, I'll be here, reading, lurking, and replying if I think I can help in any way possible. <P>I admire all of you. You've come such a long way in the process and have come out not only as survivors, but successful, strong women as well. Hats off to you. <P>Take care,<BR>CoR

I like this thread a lot. Back UP to the top with this one, too!<P>SB

CoR,<BR>I'm daisygirl on the other board. Please hang around. Your posts have always helped me.<P>Jtigger

Another one UP!

Couple-of-Reasons, thanks. Well said. What a dear you are. <P>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....