Hello All....<P>Newest update....4 babies have now turned to 3. Go figure!!! The conjoined twins are no longer conjoined. I am having a hard time beleiving that my spouse can really be so gullable!! I'm embarrassed!! What in God's name can he be thinking about?? He won't tell me the delivery date....asked if i wanted to be there. I said no...I don't want u there...why would I want to be there??? I asked him so how do you feel that the # of children continues to decrease?? He said he'll just be glad when it's over so he can see what's really going on. He also said today that he will have a paternity test done...although he's sure they're his. (I don't know how he could be sure of anything with the lies she's already told) Ladies please tell me...do I sound stupid...or just really naive?? I can't even really explain how I feel. I've been having chest pains...went ER today...they said i pulled a muscle...I think it's stress. This thing is tearing me apart....I feel so helpless!! Ladies...I'm so sorry to keep whining...but this whole dilema is working on my mind and body...this is really the only sound outlet I have. From what I've read so far....sounds as though it's worse after DDay.(whenever that may be) HELP PLEASE!!!!<P>Much Love.....<P>Broke-Down

Broke-Down,<P>I am actually not surprised that she is again changing the facts. I think that your H is either in a fog, or has been brain washed by this "person" (for lack of a better word ) At least, now, he has agreed to get the paternity test, but you will have to wait till after the baby(ies) are born. I am sorry that it is starting to affect your health, and you may be having a stress attack. All I can say at this point is to give it to God. There is nothing else, in regards to the baby(ies) at this time, and you will have to wait till they are born. In regards to your H, continue to communicate with him. It sounds as if you may be getting somewhere, if not all the way. You need to try to help him understand that being in the delivery room is NOT going to help the baby(ies) bond with him. It is OW trying to dig her claws in deeper, instead of loosing her grip. You may also be right on target with your suspicions of actual paternity with all her other lies. Who's to say that she hasn't whelped with other suckers?<P>Anyway, I hope that you can try to relax about this right now. The biggest thing you need to work on at this time is getting a firm foundation set before the baby(ies) are born, so you can stand together with H on the decisions you have made together.<P>Love,<P>Tigger

Dear broke-down,<P>I don't feel that you are whining at all. For the rest of us, one baby is an incredible enough situation. But your case sounds like Walmart's "falling prices" - a baby drops off every week! <P>If this keeps up, by the delivery date, maybe she won't be pregnant at all?!<P>But dear, broke-down, if any of us could understand what our H's see in these crazy women, we would be millionaires. It seems that in almost every case, the other person is as far as possible from the personality, looks, intelligence and honesty of the spouse. I guess it's the call of the wild...<P>Come here and vent with us whenever you feel the need.<P>love,<BR>heavenly

Dear BrokeDown,<P>I just wanted to let you know that i am sorry for<BR>all you are going through. I havent been posting<BR>much but wanted to lend my hand in welcoming you.<BR>Please know that you can come here to vent all your<BR>uneasy feelings and questions. You arent alone.<BR>There are many great women and men who understand<BR>what you are going through. Take care, fluke

Broke-Down,<BR>Dont you ever feel like you are whining you come here when ever you need to and say whatever you feel. You poor thing with what your dealing with I would be living here. As far as the ow in our case you couldnt believe a thing that came out of her mouth. Next she'll be saying she going to have a baby dinasor. Hope your feeling better soon. I have had the same pains in my chest. I believe it is caused by stress. It feels like a heart attack doesnt it? With love flowerseed

tigger...heavenly...fluke & flowerseed....<P>God bless each and everyone of u for your kindness!! It does sincerely help!! I want to stay...but not so sure that I'm willing to endure the pain & madness that is sure to come. I'll just take it day by day.<P>Much Love....<P>Broke-Down

Dear Broken down<BR>I am sorry that your H is in his fog...this OW is a major story teller...I guess she figured the more kids maybe H would leave???...but man she really takes the cake...I am glad to here he has agreed to the paternity test...My gullable one is taking his today ( baby is 8 months old), and he (we ...but I did not know) have been supporting baby AND OW...another vent...we are paying ALOT...and this was for a 3 week fling...anyway...I hope these (that) babies are not your H's with all the lies she has been telling they just might not be...as far as the anxiety attacks...yea got them too...I tend to sugar coat and hold things in..I protect the world and not myself...so presto...anxiety attacks...in fact I responed to a post one evening I think to paul...and I had taken a "happy pill" I have to wait till baby is in bed...because I dont function..but I need them occasionally otherwise I feel I am having a heart attack...well they make you feel like you are drunk ( at least me)..pretty much dont care about anything after one of those (Xanex)...funny the next day reading the post I made NO SENSE..which I guess is the purpose of the med...it helps me to sleep too...I dont recommend them if you have to drive or seriously function..but if you can and need the sleep ask your doctor...beats that panic.. someone is standing on my chest<BR>feeling...prayer works most of the time...sometimes though I cant see the light and I just want to sleep...take care...sound to me like you have the best chance of all here..your OW is a major lair...MyCross

I read in disbelief about two of the babies (boy and a girl) being conjoined. This is impossible. Identical twins are always one sex or the other. Never one of each. <P>Identical twins are conceived with one egg and one sperm then the ova splits. When they fail to completely separate, the result can be cojoined babies. <P>I am sorry your H even remotely believes this OW story. Wonder what other cow-puckey she's throwing his way. <P>I will pray your H gets his head out of his a** soon.<P> <P>

someone mentioned having chest pains from stress.Some of these symptoms could be classified as a panic attack/anxiety disorer-and who would not understand that any of us could have that given the situation we are all in? Be sure it isn't a real heart attack though-if no famly history, BP o.k., etc. than it usually subsides on its on with deep breathing. I hope you are o.k, broken down.

OW is not telling the truth and may not know how!! Im SO SORRY for your pain. Ill pray for you.

Hi Broke Down,<P>Just wanted to lend my support and prayers your way. This is so hard I know and yes it sounds as if you are having anxiety attacks.<P>Personally, I think when it effects you physically meds is a good way to go until the lightning is gone and you can just distantly hear the thunder. My Cross! Whew!!! I took Xanax in college. OMGoodness! It kicked my butt! lol Seriously though, I took Buspar when it effected me physically. Told the doc xanaz i knew was too powerful and he prescribed buspar. It was just enought to take the edge off. It didnt make me out of it. I was alredy feeling so out of control that I couldnt lose more to meds.<P>Anyway, prayers your way.<P>Love<BR>bw