Zebrababy, Thanks so much for sending out the APB on me. Happy Girl, thanks for the e-mail and letting me know Zebrababy was looking for me. Funny, Happy girl you should use the term APB my H just got his test scores back for the written part of the police officer's test in our state. He did great and it is just a matter of time until he hears about the interview phase. I am doing okay, some days good, some days okay, some days not so great. I have been really busy,work, family, house, and every time I come to this forum lately there is just so much going on and I get overwhelmed and can not decide what to post to. After reading for awhile I feel so exhausted from all the BS that has been flying around that I end up leaving and not posting to anything. This forum was such a help, it was such a joy to me to find it and to realize there were so many others going through what I am. I am really speakless as to explain what is going on here now. I am glad for the recent banning, however it seems like there are some new ones who may need to be dealt with. When I first can to this forum back in <BR>Feb. things were so quiet, peaceful, helpful, and everyone was so kind and understanding. Even when there were differences in views they were discussed on a adult level. For the life of me I can not understand why grown adults would intentionally come to a place and set out to hurt others. I for one would never go to a place where they were and give them the time of day. I am hoping we can just ignore and let them see how childish they are and may be without fuel to run their engines they will stall and go away. I think they come and post when they know they are not wanted out of jeolousy over the fact that so many of us here are helping ourselves and others, and they do not want to see us heal or be happy. Stay well all, smile, help yourselves and others here, Peace to all my MB friends, thank you for being there for me. I am going to try and get back into the swing of thing here,& stay in touch. Thanks again Zebra and Happy_girl, GAbi1116

Gabi,<P>It's good to see you back. Hope you post more soon.<P>Love,<P>Tigger

I understand completely, Gabbi. Just glad to know you're still around.<P>Love,<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Hi Gabi,<P>Glad you are back, too.<BR>I just sent you an email wondering how you are!<P><BR>Hi Deb,<P>I'm always happy to see you posting!<BR>How are you today? Sending you hugs...

Horrible Fluke. I'll post later ok?<P>Love,<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Dear gabi,<P>I have to say that I also joined you for a while in semi-retirement. I came back and saw the forum was going crazy and that certainly put me off. <P>But, if you are not part of the solution then you are part of the problem, right? So, I decided to come back and try to help the others put the place right. I intend to take the Moderators' advice and simply ignore anything unpleasant.<P>Congratulations to your H on his test scores, my H is also in law enforcement -- it can be very rewarding, although sometimes a bit scary. But my H loves it.<P>I am truly glad to see you back. It would be great if we can get the chat going again one of these days. So, let's try to put the bad days behind us and move forward on this forum. <P>Take good care of yourself.<BR>love,<BR>heavenly

gabbi,<BR>congrats to your hubby on his test. You guys have your first family meeting with the oc soon dont you? Glad your back. with love flowerseed

Yeah Gabbi,<BR>so glad you're o.k. I too had been on hiatius from the board, but one day I decided that if all of us acted like business as usual, eventually we'd get back to the forum we know and love. after a while everyone that is decent here will tire of responding and then with no response they will, poof, disappear.<P>What I've been trying to do is find one or two newbies that haven't received the attention I did when I first got here and sortta adopt their plight. I'm keeping a close eye on LSB because I feel her pain like it's my own. That keeps me focused on what this board is about. And another I've been watching out for is NGU. She and I chatted for a while last night. Can't remember if you were there, but I think you were. Anyway those two ladies have kept me focused on the tasks at hand.... our happiness and our healing.<P>So anyway, keep smiling. Look for the good and cast aside the bad.<P>Glad you're back,<P><P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

hi gabi1116! glad you got the APB. he he. also glad to hear that your husband did well on his test for the police department. i admire police officers, and firemen, etc.<P>it has been wild hear. i try to stay away because i get upset at the people causing trouble. i am not a fighter, i prefer peace. i hate arguments, etc. so i get really uncomfortable when people come in to our house and start trouble. i am so glad we have moderators now! but, with all the newbies, i feel obligated to come here and help, like so many that helped me when i first found this place. i can't get to everyone, and i sometimes don't have much to say but welcome, but i just have to come here. so i am trying to ignore the offensive posts. i saw that a post completely disappeared, it was by one of the troublemakers, not sure what it said, but it must have been yucky. <P>take care. glad things are looking up in your world.<P>happy_girl

Zebra, Happygirl, Gemini, Tigger, Fluke, Flowerseed, Heavenly, and to everyone else, thanks again for thinking of me. Glad to be somewhat back, just having a hard time catching up. Kind of like tigger did when she left, only she left to have a baby. It's hard to catch up and I have a lot I wanted to share. Well actually I did not leave to have a baby, but we did add an addition to our family. The oc came over and my children and I met him. My son took it well we told him just the night before the visit, because he is six and would have been crazy waiting for the event if we told him too much in advance. They played well, and enjoyed each others company. I told my mother and she took it sooooo well. I had such fear and worry over this issue, that my mom would hate my h, and it was just the opposite, she hugged and kissed him and told him everyone makes mistakes and everything will be fine. She even came over to met the oc, and was very sweet to him. The one night stand that lead to the oc did happen so long ago over six years, so emotions fade and everyone realizes that no matter what happens life is going to go on so lets make the best of it and enjoy and be thankful for what we have and how blessed we are. We have a long way to go before we can all truely live happily, my h and I are doing great, we have a few downs but more ups,and that is the most important thing repairing our marriage and family for ourselves and our children to be healthy, now we can help the oc to feel happy and accepted. The ow is a whole other issue she is trouble and probably always will be, after so many years she still holds so much bitterness,and then people wonder why there is bitterness towards the ow. Ever issue is a problem, with her, she complains about everything my h does and says, she is still aganist visitation, and we have to fight for every hour, and we have a court order. Even just with our last visit she yelled at her child because he wanted to stay longer. Our lawyer is working on things and hopefully by the end of the week we will have a longer time ordered and less fights. For the oc sake I hope her lawyer or the judge of someone tells her she is doing more harm, and it will come back to her if she does not stop. Oh well, sorry this ended up so long, that is what I get for staying away too long. Thanks for reading this and thanks for all the support, you guys are all great. Peace, Gabi1116