Well I knew that it was bound to happen sooner than later. I was at the mall and i hear"look honey there is your sister" Yep it was the Ow pointing my child out to her child. i kept walking i did not want to make a scene and the kids are so younge neither knew what was going on but any fantasies about the Ow not telling her child and the child not calling my child as soon as he learns how to uses a phone(about what age5?) has disapeared. Or the child showing up at chuckecheese or any where else that kids go. I now now that keeping this secreat for too long(probably another year or two) will be impossible. Unless the Ow has said she never plans on telling her child or they live VERY far away i hope evryone prepares their kids for this day. I thank God my little one is too little to talk so he ahd no clue as to what was being said. My God, can you imagine if he did and he began asking me questions like, was that really my sibling? What would i do lie? i couldn't do that. i was really shaky and had to just sit in the car for a while before going home. I talked to hubby and we decided in another year or so we are telling our child(going to hear about it one way or another and I definately feel it is better coming from us) and they we will be going after visitation. I need sleep|yeah like that might happen) i am so sick of all this!

whatif?,<P>i can't believe she yelled something like that out to you. kind of reminds me of OW. when me and H were still dating, we were at the mall and she was there with her friends. (they had gone out as friends on a couple of dates before he met me, then he stopped going out with her so she didn't like me!). she yells across the mall "hello --------". now i would never do that if i saw a guy i liked with a girl. that is just rude.<P>i would be sick of it too. i know we will not live here when we have kids. don't want any chance of running into her at the mall or somewhere. yuck. we will be leaving the state when i finish school. far away....<P>hang in there. it has to be so tough to live so close to her. you can get through this. prayers for you.<P>happy_girl

What a horrible experience! Obviously she was doing this for your benefit, not the childs (if OC is too young to really understand). Man, I get so tired of hearing about these females who presume they have a right to jump in the middle of someone else's life and then expect to be treated as if they are supposed to be there! I guess maybe I am from another planet... but whatever happened to basic morals? Oh... I guess I forgot for a minute where I was posting. This is a board for infidelity and then children that come along with that infidelity. I am sure we are all dealing with a LARGE amount of no morals. <P>Whew... sorry about this vent. Guess I have too much coffee this morning. That really is an awful thing to go through. I am glad your H talked to you about it. Good sign of some recovery happening there. Hang in there. And maybe somehow down the road this situation will turn in your favor. You just never know. I am one of the ones who has fantasy that one day OC will care more for me that the OW. That would just burn her up! I plan on being as sweet and good to that child as I possibly can (whenever I am ever allowed around her). Nothing cuts folks to the bone deeper than being nice when they do not expect you to. Just undercuts all the things they have built up in their head to justify their own actions. <P>Take care... Carolyn

[QUOTE]Originally posted by whatif?:<BR>[B]up,up

That's a big fear of mine. She lives close.<P>Sorry you had to go through that. Just another<BR>sign that she has no class. You do, and a conscious.<BR>Hold your head up. Take care, fluke

what if, that is the biggest fear of mine. I think if I start to run into her, I will have to move because I cannot deal with this fear on a regular basis. So far we seem to travel in different circles, but I know I am very nervous when I am at stores, placed, public places with my kids. I find myself looking around to see if I would recognize her or her car and doubt I would go into store if I thought she were there. I agree-this Ow is a mean SOB to do that-I do not understand how they think they have the right to hurt your kids or the kids of original family. No one has right to access of those kids=not OW,NOt OC, noone without parents permission. My OW seems to think her child should not miss out on getting to know my kids=well, if she doesn't move I plan on it. H doesn't want to because we are quite entrenched where we are, but he brought this onto us and he may have to pay the price to support us elsewhere. I hate the fact I feel insecure in my own neighborhood, never gave it any thought of where I went or who I would run into. Now I worry endlessly and it makes me very nervous. ONe of the worst things about what H did is this part of it. I hate it.

WHAT A CRAZY B***H!! That sounds like something an OW would do

whatif,<BR>That's outrageous!! But as someone pointed out, what can we expect from women with no morals or conscience... more of the same.<BR>So sorry for you and your family. Keep your head up!!<BR>J<P>

MAN that makes me want to puke! I am sorry she is such an inconsiderate degenerate who obviously lacks any class whatsoever...but I guess that is to be expected.