I am worried about you and wondering how your situation is going.Please keep us posted.<P>love, anniem

anniem,<BR>I'm sorry. My computer is acting weird. I haven't been able to stop my frozen screen from happening for a couple of days. Frustrating......<P><BR>God took a long time but my prayers are answered.<P>My H and I are finally connecting on the same level.<P>I saw attorney Friday. She suggested we get a joint restraining order. We are waiting this long weekend for another attorney to call and we can get this done.<P>My attorney said it would be a conflict of interest to represent us both for the order. After all she is representing only me should something go wrong.<P>Ow has....put baby's pictures in my mailbox for me to find.<P>Called my H at least 10 times a day.<P>Showed up at his office and wouldn't leave.<P>Girls....H FINALLY said he hates her. The FOG has completley lifted. She has mailed me a letter to clear the air and it was horrible. She took a letter I wrote my H early on from his desk...where I called her a slut and the baby a "[censored]" child. She says she's going to court to prove me unstable.<P>My attorney said do not worry....SHE would testify to my being completely in control considering what has happened!!!<P>Now ISB this is for you....not to ever change your mind but to let you know God has touched me.<P>Ow would not let 3rd party get baby.....sooooo...hard as it was I agreed to let my H and son go pick him up Friday at 6.<P>H arranged it in front of me....it was hard....she agreed....a few hrs. later she called his business phone and changed her mind! Due to "your wifes instability" baby may not go to your house....If you do not come to my house alone you will have denied your son and you will never see him again.<P>H saw the light finally....she wouldn't let him take baby to a friends to visit because she said I should accept baby in our home! I agreed and she changed the story. Can you believe it's me all of you who followed me through this winter?<P>I want the baby here and so does my son!!!<P>We will get paternity done and take her to court.<P>We have many dated letters to H and me from THIS week. We have witnesses to all the crap she's pulled this week.<P>My attorney said she's carving her own future and proving she doesn't want what's best for baby. SHE WANTS MY H!!!!<P>Latest letter (today) said he was choosing two ADULTS over an innocent miracle of life. That God let baby happen for a reason and since H didn't show up last night she will use every penny to see he NEVER will see his son. The adults she refers to are my son and myself.<P>She doesn't want baby around anyone she doesn't know as she wants what's best for him. She doesn't know our son. THAT pissed H offf even more.<P>Her true colors came through. H trusted her all along and now admits how very wrong he was.<P>New poja.....if he fails any part of it this time without question I will leave. My intuition for sure this time tells me that won't happen. He thinks I'm an angel for helping him to visit son...to allow baby here...He's overwhelmed with my change of behavior...But I tell you it was EASY because he is no longer keeping the truth from me!!!<P>I waited for a long time and I know prayers are answered somehow. The one prayer was to heal my marriage and I feel it's happened.<P>ISB, know that things MAY change for the best for you too.<P>It's 6 mos tomorrow for d-day.<P>I feel a miracle in progress.<P>I feel vindicated.<P>I feel like I have control now.<P>If H keeps his word there will be no problem.<P>I will be able to deal with the baby. He cried today over not being able to see him.<P>I truly feel bad. I wish I could make it happen. Now she's using us, his family against her baby..<P>Hey guys I'll try to get back here tomorrow if my computer co-operates. If not I'm buying another. I'll need your help w/court and things...ok?<P>I am blessed today. Taking the high road is always best. I wish she could know what I want to say to her but I will maintain my silence.<P>Love to everyone...thanks anniem for the thread. I will pray you are better today.<P>Validation is all it took for me. An acknowledgement of my feelings helped me change my mind.<P>Love,<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Who are you and what did you do with gem? <P>Seriously, debi, good for you. No, GREAT for you. Get on that restraining order ASAP.<P>Love and prayers,<BR>cd

Dear Debi,<P>You know what I am going to say ... the power of prayer is awesome! Things are finally working out and I am soooo happy for you!<P>We'll be with you every step of the way, gem...<P>love and a big hug,<BR>heavenly

Gem,<BR>All right I am so happy for your family you did it you made it. Gem your news has made my day or I guess I should say night. with love flowerseed

It took me a long time to reply to this thread between the smelling salts to revive me and the plastic surgeon needed to reattach my jaw to mouth. Like cd, I want to know who you are and what you did to our Gem!!!<P>Gem, stunned and humbled is all I can say. I am truly inspired and touched to once again to have witnessed yet another miracle on Harley's MB Forum.<P>Six months to the day, huh? Another Harley prediction come true. What is it with this six month time frame?<P>Prayers of Joy coming to you and yours.<P>Catnip =^^=

Hey Guys.....I'm gonna be God mother !!! with our own baptism!!!!! Step Mom and God mom....how's that?????<P><BR>I realy feel an ally w/baby.<P>WE ARE ALL INNOCENT!!!!!<P>She's really using baby as pawn. I would NEVER do this!!<P><BR>cd, H wonders where Gem went too...<P>Heavenly thankyou.....All the hard part was done by ow!!! whopee!!!! I have no weight gain and boobs and a loving sexual H again!!!!<P>Flowersex....I am as strong as I can be...like a power ranger. <P>I saw pic's of baby and felt "love"..<P>Do you hear me ISB?? Honestly!!! and I used to sound just like you.<P>All jealousy is <BR>GONE!!!!!!!!!!<P><BR>We are commited to each other!!!<P>More letters from her today,,, who cares??? She is nuts and psycho!!!!<P>I am redeemed!!!<P>God has a reason for baby Gian Carlo...Maybe it's the stability he'll get from us...<P><BR>H knows I won't give up my freedom to raise baby...is ok w/that.Just wants visitation!!! No custody!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<P><BR>I am A child of God...truly HE knows I have no hate left in my heart...only love for H and my son and h"s child.....<P><BR>Praise Jesus !!!!! His miracles naver cease!!!!<P>More to come...<P><BR>Love,<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....<p>[This message has been edited by gemini1 (edited May 13, 2001).]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>It took me a long time to reply to this thread between the smelling salts to revive me and the plastic surgeon needed to reattach my jaw to mouth. Like cd, I want to know who you are and what you did to our Gem!!!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>HA!!! HA!!! HA!! HA!!!<P>She has seen the light and H has differentiated between WIFE and SLUT!!!!!!! <P>I feel so relieved.....<P><BR>I needed to hear H say he HATED this cun* andWhor*<P>He did it!! He has said to me "no one ever has done something so great for me not my parents or anyone but my # 1 loving WIFE!!!!!"<P>H was asking who could be Godmother and I said "Me".... He CRIED!!!! I said it would be my special bond w/Gian Carlo....H is more in love w/me now than ever before.<P>I feel the closeness of when we were 17 again...but this time w/sex involved....it's sooooohot... I fell in love all over again!!!!<P><BR>ISB I KNOW it'll happen for you../....<P><BR>One day you will realize H CHOSE YOU and FAMILY....Doesn't mean he likes ow......just child...only child....It meant the world to me it wasn't her!!!!<P><BR>Love,<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Wow Gem that's so incredible! Nothing brings people together like an outside threat... Just so happy you're all together on the same page with this: a united front in critical. You'll be a great step-mom <P>Godbless

OMG thank you Jenny from the bottom of my heart!!!!!!<P>You are so right!!!<P><BR>Love,<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Go Gemini, Go Gemini, Go Gemini, it's your birthday !!!!<P> God bless you GO Gemini, go Gemini, Go Gemini!!!!!!!!!<P>------------------<BR>Gregg

Thanks LyntonG!!!!(can't get used to that new name).<P>I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart.<P>When things finally "click" it just feels so good!<P>Love,<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Gemini: You sound wonderful!!!I am so happy for you. I don't know much of all the particulars of what the OW has done in the past, just the past few months. You are a great inspiration to me...My therapist said to me today(in front of H) "I know you deeply love him." I just wish I could feel it w/o being so da&#*d scared. The fears inside keep me withdrawn and unable to enjoy intimacy as well as the little things. My H says he loves it when I actually smile a heartfelt smile...he says it rarely happens...<BR>Keep posting with the wonderful news and courage...it truly keeps me going!

Gem Gem Gem,<P>I've been kindda half [censored] on the board this weekend and just stumbled across your post!<P>Wow! I second that..... where's Gem?<P>This is soooooo awesome. I told you it would feel good to relax and release. It's like once you give in and let the pain really go... good things start flowing in.<P>You are a true testament to this MB forum. Once you focus on the marriage all the other outside s**t is manageable. Nothing can penetrate the combined forces of two people in love. <P>You're testament here will help sooooo many in the future. I wish we could post side by side how you were when you first got here and today. I remember it well because we showed up on this board right about the same time. <P>I remember copying a letter you wrote your H about not accepting OC. I gave that same letter to my H, with my own twists of course. But eventually and miraculously (and through the help and guidance of these wonderful forum members) I saw past the OC and realized my marriage was a more important issue to tackle.<P>C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S<P>I know that feeling too well. It's like the weight of the world is off your sholders! <P>LSB...... are you listening ????? I wish you could give us a sign that you have seen this. Maybe email someone and let them know you're o.k.<P>Again Deb, congratulations. A united couple is the best news we could ever get on this forum.<P>You made my day.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Hey Gem,<P>One more question. Did you feel like when you finally accepted OC to your husband that he loved and appreciated you more?<P>It was like that for me. I was trying to tell LSB that. I couldn't believe my H's attitude change towards me and our marriage when he realized that I was on his side. It all of a sudden became us against the world. What an awesome feeling.<P><BR><P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Dear Debi,<P>This story just keeps getting better and better and better!<P>Enjoy your happiness, you have earned it and much more. Like Jenny said, keep up this united front and there is nothing that you will not be able to accomplish.<P>Your H is one of the luckiest men in the world and I hope he remembers that every day from now on until forever. Don't forget we are here for you to smooth the bumps in the road and to enjoy the wonder of your recovery.<P>God has truly blessed you Debi, by opening your heart to the love that was inside there.<P>love,<BR>heavenly

Gem,What can I say....Oh I am soooo happy to have read all the great news you have in this thread. I am just very very happy. And actually a bit speechless. You really have pleasantly surprised me. I have been out of the forum for a few days and this was great news to come back to . I too became a step mom alittle over a week ago. I wish your whole family much happiness. Your h is a lucky man, as all of ours are. However, yours has a new special something to be thankful for this week. How wonderful.....If you need anything just let me know. Ow can be hard to handle when it comes to visitation. Just ask me I probably have the answer. Peace...Gabi1116

Thanks Gabbi. We are going through a lot. Harrassing, letters, calls....saw prosecuter yesterday and set up meeting w/her next tues.<P>It's called menacing in ohio. No restraining order w/o death threat.<P>Lawyers also sending letters.<P>I'll keep ya posted.<P>Love,<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>One more question. Did you feel like when you finally accepted OC to your husband that he loved and appreciated you more?<P>It was like that for me. I was trying to tell LSB that. I couldn't believe my H's attitude change towards me and our marriage when he realized that I was on his side. It all of a sudden became us against the world. What an awesome feeling.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>YEEEESSSSS!!!! It has been truly an awakening. Oh! Zebra I know what you mean. Unbelieveable.<P>I hope ISB is lurking. I know she won't listen...heck I couldn't even fathom a baby that wasn't mine. I saw his pictures thanks to ow, and I fell in love. Now I'm actually worried that paternity will prove it's not h's.<P>Yet to come......<P>Tues. prosecuters meeting.<P>Who know's where this will lead?<P>Ow started "walking" again....right past our house 2 times a day!!!!<P>Oh well....poor loser I guess, ha ha ha <P>Love,<BR>Debi<P><BR><P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Gem,<P>I am so happy for you!!! This little boy is very lucky to have you in his corner.<P>Your H is also very lucky to have finally "seen the light"! I hope that things continue to go well for you and your H. <BR>I was gently nudged by Heavenly, that I don't post very often to very many people here, and may have inadvertantly stepped on some toes. I know that you may be one of them, and just wanted to let you know how happy I am for you, and that I do pray for you and your situation. Hopefully the meeting on Tues goes well. I will pray for you.<P>Love,<P>Tigger