Just wanted you to know that I will not be posting for a while about my own situation as this place no longer is helping me. My H is now reading my posts regularly here, and when I get angry and use this post to vent so as not to vent at him, he is becoming upset by it.It no longer seems useful for me to do this to him and to us. I will miss this forum..Since I have told noone of my situation, I have really appreciated the support, advice, suggestions and commonality in our situations. I have had difficult days, made less difficult by being able to put thoughts on this forum. My struggles continue with H- I do not know if he and I will make it-but I will lurk, however, post when I can, and thanks to all. You will all be in my thoughts.

LSB,<P>I'm so sorry to hear that your husband is reading your posts on this site and not understanding your need to vent. I will miss and worry about you. Please do continue to lurk as we will all have you in our thoughts and prayers. <P>Hopefully one day you can come back to us under another name and email us so we know who you are! <P>But until then, best of luck and remember, when you need us, we are here.<P>Also, I'm very sorry if I and others came across hard in responses to some of your posts. I personally didn't intend to make you feel bad, I just want you to look at your options and how all of them could and may affect your future. So, If I at all offended you, I'm sorry.<P>LSB's husband: If you read this. Allow your wife a small piece of corner to lick her wounds. We all deserve a special safe haven to run to when the chips are down. This site is safe for her and can only help do just what it name says "MARRIAGE BUILDERS"!!!<P>Goodbye LSB, we'll miss you.<P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Isb,<BR>Again, I'm sorry for your pain. Your H has nothing to fear HERE. I hope you two can pull your marriage together. Do you have ANY affair recovery books? Please read one--together! You can order one anonymously on-line, and maybe once you're on the "same page" you'll find your middle ground.<P>Hoping and praying for you,<BR>J (whose H really liked After the Affair by Abram Spring)

Dear ISBs' Husband,<P> How ya doin,? I just wanted to tell you that I post here because I have no one else to talk to. I have anger, frustration, fear, a terrible feeling of loss a mourning. This is the place for us to vent.<BR> The reason I vent here is because I love and care about my wife so much, I don't want to unload on her. Maybe that's why ISB is here, she cares about you!<P><BR> God bless you both,<P>------------------<BR>Gregg

lsb, All I can say is good luck. And even if marriage doent make it you deserve true happiness. I truly hope you find it. Im in the same boat(about not being sure about marriage)and realize it is a daily struggle. Just take care, and only post to the post that touch, as I do. Hope to see you around.

Dear H of lsb,<P>Your wife loves you and wants very much to work things out. But you must understand that women are very differently affected by this situation than men are. <P>My recovery was sporadic for years. My H and I had ups and downs and we would fight off and on about the stress of the OC situation. The best thing that happened to me was finding this site a year ago. Here I was able to let all the feelings inside of me out among others who understood.<P>The sadness, the anger, the hurt -- if they are not released, analyzed and then tossed away for good -- they will fester inside. Your W will never completely and correctly heal without an outlet for her pain and disappointment.<P>The fact that she is letting that pain out here is taking pressure off your relationship and allowing her to concentrate on giving you the best part of her. I respectfully ask you not to take that away from your wife. She is a good and loving person but right now she is hurt and confused and she needs the interaction of others in her situation.<P>We have another couple that both post here (tigger and sailorman) and their marriage has thrived again because of what they have learned together. I hope you will re-consider and participate in your wife's healing rather than cut her off from the healing that she needs.<P>We are all finding our way and praying for both of you...<P>love,<BR>heavenly

Hey Heavenly,<P><BR> Are you laying down??!! Take care of yourself!!!!<P><BR> God bles you,<P>------------------<BR>Gregg

Lsb,<P>Just wanted to say that if it bothers your hubby and you choose to stay away for a while (maybe your attackers will find someone else to verbally abuse) then I send prayers your way. If you need someone to talk to email me. saderangel@hotmail.com<P>Love<BR>bw

ISB I AM HERE FOR MY DOUBLE...<P>I love you ISB!!! YOU sound exactly like I did 6 mos. ago....<P>ISB H if you truly love and want your wife do not get angry....<P><BR>VALIDATE...REPENT....Worry about C another time....It will be sweeter to greet C w/loving wonderful wife!!!<P>I have been married 27 yrs....It took a long time to trust H again!!!!!<P><BR>Respectfully<P>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....<p>[This message has been edited by gemini1 (edited May 13, 2001).]

Isb, the same thing happened to me with my husband last November.<P>I hope that your husband changes his mind soon. I know that it's hard to lose the friends and advice from here.<P>Hang in there, wherever life takes you.<P>All the best.<BR>--HBC

HEy Isa,<BR> Sorry for all of this. I know my advice can be straight forward but here is my e-mail if you need anything: blue00b@hotmail.com Take care.

lsb,<BR>I will miss you. I hope with all my heart things work out for your family. My email is flowerseed@hotmail.com <BR> with love flowerseed

lsb,<P>All the best to you. I wish you peace and hope that the two of you can work this out since that seems to be so much what you want.<P>Mrs. Job

LSB, i am sorry that your H made your safe place somewhere you no longer feel you can come. To me that is another way he is not showing he is fully committed to you. He needs to do that for your sanity LSB. It is bad enough what he did to you, now he should be doing all he can to show you he is sorry and loves you. My prayers for you...<P>happy_girl