I am so mad, I called my sil today because I know she is coming over to my house, I told her I wanted the pics of oc that she has, In my opinion they are none of her business and If I want them she should give them to me, My H will not ask her for them because he does not want to talk about it at all to her, anyway she told me that she wants to keep them,I will not speak to her anymore if she insists on keeping them, when h took them from ow she stated she wanted them back and that is exactly what i am going to do with them, I do not need these pics floating around in the family for MY children to see one day, Please help me I am so ticked and don't say my H should ask for them he is a big wuss who wants to pretend it never happened, it is I who want those pics gone for good, I am going crazy!!!!, the thing that bugs me is that she doesn't want her kids involverd with oc either, bad morals and all that crap too, I guess I will have to tell her the whole story one day, that her brother is not the only candidate for the paternity of this oc the ow is a slut who slept with 4 other guys, one who looks remarkedly like my H!! <BR>thanks for letting me vent, this is the only place I can do it

I "borrowed" the pics of oc that my MIL had - all but the 5x7. Most of them went in the trash, but I kept 2 of them. I can't seem to throw them away. It's amazing that she looks NOTHING like my son or H.

For your own sanity, try to let go of this. It is just one of those areas that you cannot control and it will only make you insane worrying about it. Maybe one day your SIL will see how harmful this was to you. I am sure she most likely has some good intentions, but folks that are not walking in our shoes really do not understand how harmful those intentions can be. If OW wants these back then she needs to contact your SIL. But once again, I would just leave it alone. Don't let it take up space in your head.<P>Carolyn