I want to thank all of you who genuinely care about our thoughts, concerns, feelings and respect our choices.<BR>I don't post very often, except when something bigger than the obvious is going on. But I do read a lot of what is exchanged. Sometimes while I'm reading the posts I smile (which is not as often as I used to), sometimes I get teary eyed because all I can think of is that I'm not alone and someone does understand. Other times I wish I could just know all of you in person and reach out to get and give a great big hug.<BR>I hope you all realize how much you all mean to me. (Right about now I'lm about to cry)<BR>I have chosen to keep my life story a secret among my H, SIL, the counselor and you. That's not much of a support system I know, but it's what works for me. I appreciate everything you offer and your kind and sensitive words inspire me to look upon my future with my family with optimism.<BR>It's a hard and long road I know....<BR>God has been good to me up to now. Crisis have been a minimum and gifts have been plentiful. I guess He thought I needed to keep me on my toes. Who knows. <BR>What I do know is that because of so many of you, I am taking each day one step at a time and have never regretted my decisions.<BR>Thank you all so much. You are a vital part of my H and my healing.<P>

You are loved here...and someday maybe you'll change your moniker to "Not-so-tormented" or "I Careth Not"<P>In the meantime, you have our number.<P>Catnip =^^=

Hi Tormented <P>I remember your postings from the other board and often wondered how you were doing, hoping someday peace would come. I knew eventually you would find it and although you may not feel it every single day, you've come a very long way. Be proud of yourself. <P>I'm certainly glad you've found a home here, a wonderful board which offers support and a cyber ear and/or shoulder. Since I know I can't change the terrible situations people are in, I at least want to tell other wives and husbands that they are not alone. I always recommend this board.<P>You are correct when you say this is a personal decison and honestly, one which isn't up for debate. There are too many issues and variables thrown in that it's humanly impossible to apply one solution to all. Each family has to do what is necessary to prevent further harm and pain for all. It is my belief that if you do all you can do for yourself and your family, you can never go wrong. You do not owe an explanation, an apology, or defense to the actions you see fit for you and your family. <P>Again, tormented, I'm glad to see you have found such a wonderful place to learn, share and grow. Please.. take care of yourself. I'm wishing the best for you.<P>CoR <P><BR> <P><p>[This message has been edited by Couple_of_Reasons (edited May 15, 2001).]

Dear tormented,<P>What a wonderful post! I am so happy that you feel comfortable here. You are definitely among people who understand what you are going through.<P>I also have not shared my situation widely with family and friends so this has become my family. Here is where I come to laugh, to cry, to vent... MB Forum has saved my H from many arguments that really were meaningless to begin with.<P>We are so glad you are here. Lean on us whenever you need to.<P>love,<BR>heavenly

Dear tormented,<BR>I welcome you to vent here anytime you wish.<P>There is always someone wonderful to listen.<P>Love, <BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....