I don't think I have ever posted this much, but I need to vent my hurt.<P>I have never dealt with anyone so manipulative and calculating as OW. OW is/was?? married to a person who has a known drug problem, her mother has a drug problem and lives off the state, low income/SSI, I am not sure. OW has admitted to being involved with other married men before...what was my H thinking? During his relationship with her he has share "me", my identity, with her and she is using it to destroy what she can. I am a christian and my boys and I have wanted H to attend church with us. H has gone some, but not often (special occassions/holidays).<P>Sunday, OW calls and leaves a message I know was for me. Something like this....."G****, I wanted to remind you it was Sunday. I'll be by there(where?)about 10 till 10 on my way to church. I wish you would go with L**** and I, but if you can't......"<P>I guess what hurts the most is my H shared me with "her" and she is still intruding.<P>Very sad....jessie <P>

Let's face it. OW are trash. They're out to undermine us and whatever security we might have. Her ulterior motive-to end up withe your husband as a trophy. Atleast that's the way I feel. Try not to let her win this bout. If possible tale to H about it. Our OW took OC to H's other job where she met him to Parade the child. It bothered my and made my husband angry. I told him what I told you: her ultimate goal was to upset me and get me to leave him. He then understood how I felt and was very loving and supportive the rest of that day. I'm sorry for your pain. I will post more late. Little one is demanding my attention.<BR>ivc<BR>

I am in the opposite situation and am also going crazy!!<P>My OW refuses to speak to me or my H. He says she doesn't want anything to do with either of us. She hangs up when I tried to call her (twice) now phone is disconnected. He says all contact is over, that she doesn't want anything from him (except getting PG apparently) she's single, lives alone, 38 y/o. I am afraid she will change her mind about CS after OC is a few years old, then we will owe big! If we make it....<P>Anyway, after hearing your stories, am I lucky that OW isn't being intrusive and involved, yet???