I was chatting with a friend the other day about the OW that expect to be honored on Mother's Day. Although mine did not send our OW a card, I wish he would have sent one that said this:<P><BR>Thank you for lying about birth control.<BR>Thank you for having a child without my consent.<BR>Thank you for stealing money out of my children's mouths.<BR>Thank you for lying to and trying to hurt my wife.<BR>Thank you for making me pay for good head for the rest of my life<BR>Happy Mother's Day, I really appreciate all you've done for me.<P>I just can't get over these OW who think they should be honored by men who didn't want them to have these children in the first place. It is not an honor to commit adultrey. It is not honorable to allow yourself to become pregnant, and in some cases intentional pregnancy. It is not honorable to continually try to poison a man's marraige even after he has shunned you and recommitted himself to his wife. There is no honor in using the gift of procreation that God gave you to manipulate a man for your own needs. <P>Someone.... please get it through their heads... they are not honorable women who deserve to be cherished by our husbands.<P>Sorry for my rant. But I was feeling it!<BR><P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

I agree with you Zebra, but at the same time the same can be said for your H on Father's Day or as my H and I talked "Sperm Donor" Day. Not trying to upset, but it can go both ways.<P>RY<BR>"This child was not created out of love, but was born into love, that is All that matters"

You go girl!<P>My H could send one that said the this,<P>************************************************************<P>Thanks for coming onto me in a time of marital trouble, when one time we were supposedly "friends".<P>Thanks for almost costing me my marriage.<P>Thanks for bearing my first biological child, without my consent, without my desire to be a father. For saying you wanted nothing to do with me, then waiting almost 3 years and deciding to go for support.<P>And for the hurt you have caused my wife by taking that away from HER, and for the other hurt it caused her. I have taken responsibility for my part in her pain, you have never. You think you did nothing wrong.<P>More importantly, remember that...<P>I never loved you.<P>You were just sex in a time of emotional weakness.<P>You chose this life for your daughter.<P>I love my wife, and she is the most important thing to me.<P>That her children WILL be my first in my eyes, they will be desired, and conceived out of LOVE.<P>Have a Mother's Day.<P>***********************************************************<P><BR>Thanks Zebra!! That felt good! I printed it up, I am sure my H will enjoy it.<P>happy_girl

Regretfully Yours,<P>Hey, haven't heard from you in a while. How are you and your H doing? I agree to an extent on your comment. I draw the line at the fact that these men are willing to try to repair the damage they have done to their marriage, while the OW, in most cases, are continuing to impose on the families that are trying to heal. With you and I being in the same situation, and working on our marriages, we are not put in the same catagory as the OW(Not including OB1 in that catagory either) We have decided to just work on our marriages, and not be that thorn in OMM's W's life. I don't know if you read it or not, but this thread was started because Mrs. Job(I believe) started one similar where her OW was upset that her H didn't send a mother's day card. <P>I hope that you and your H are doing well. Give us an update. Has your H posted yet?<P><BR>Zebra and Happy,<P>Very well said. I don't feel that any human being who can treat others in the manor that these women have done to you deserves ANY positive recognition! It is nice to be able to write out our feelings or voice them. It is also safer to do so in private, or annonomously. It cleanses our heart of the hate that can eat up even the strongest person. I would like to add one of my own:<P>Thank you for the most beautiful little girl, whom you will never be able to experience any of her firsts.<P>Thank you for showing me how stupid I was, and how much my H loves me.<P>Thank you for disapearing from my life, never to return.<P><BR>I could say more, but it would have to be in code, as they don't approve of that kind of language here. <P>Love,<P>Tigger

RY,<P>I realize the same goes both ways. I do know that my husband does not expect to be honored or cherished by OW on Father's Day. He has no expectations of cards, gifts or well wishes from her. <P>That is the distinct difference!<P>I'm am by no means excusing my husband, or any other WS for their actions. Those who are sorry for what they done, feel no honor in their actions or the result of those actions. They only realize it's wrongness and shame. Many of the OW on the other hand feel they deserve an honorable place in my husband's life. They expect the husbands of Betrayed Wives to pay homage to them soley because the gave birth to their seed. <P>These are not honorable women. Honorable women are those that choose single parenthood with the consent of their sexual partner. Who choose single parenthood with the realization and acceptance that they should bare the weight of their choice alone. I too often wonder if the OW would have only been guaranteed child support if my H signed a consent form for parenting a child prior to conception, would she have allowed herself to be impregnated? I think not. The answer is no, because if he had been agreeable she would have had to lie.<P>My husband, like so many were lied to about birth control and had no choice in deciding to be a parent. These type of OW made choices, and expect to be compensated and honored. The law says my husband has to compensate, but the law can never make him honor her.<P>So you see RY, there is a very clear difference between the OW and WS with regards to the days of honor we are referring to.<P>Please respond if you think I'm off base.<P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Tigger,<P>You hit the nail on the head with your post. You are in fact one of those honorable women I mention in my second post on this thread. <P>You did an unhonorable act, but took the honorable road by accepting the consequence (having a child by a man not your husband) and not expecting to be honored by the biological father. Your honor is in the fact that you are nurturing your child and worrying only about her.... not what the OM is thinking about you. <P>I think my point about women EXPECTING to be honored and cherished was missed. Thank you for helping make it clear.<P>From one honorable woman to another, Thank you.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.