Let me explain:<P>OW called house, daughter answered phone (use someone else telephone). I heard daughter talking loud and thinking that it was some exfriends of my daughter, pick up the phone and told D that I had it. Well it turned out to be the ow. At first she just asked for H and would not give name. I said, "Who it this? Is this you J*****e, at first silent, then yea this J*****e. I said, what is it that you want. She said, I just want to talk to H, I said you are calling our house so what you ask or say to H you can tell me. <BR>I told her that we have only talked one and I think that it was time we cleared the air. She said that yes it was that one other time. I asked her why she was so hostile on the phone, when we did nothing to her, but you did something to me and our girls, because you knew that H was married and you still got pregnant. She said that he did not tell her or her family that he was married----lier---(she called my house in 97, she was 19 at the time, told me that she had my man---I told her that she could have him and I was laughing at the time and she did not know who she was playing with, but I don't play with little girls.)Did not put it together until later. We talked to her mother, stepfather and aunt, so they knew. She also said that she did not want him all they have it the boys together, because she was tried of the lies. Said she was calling for her money, I asked her what money, she said the money H is supposed to give her. I asked her how much? She said, he did not tell you, I said yes, but you still tell me.<BR>But she was calling because H was supposed to pay her $200 a week and she had not received it. I asked her when this was set up, I said was it when ya'll went to court. She said yes, I said OK I will pass the message. But in the mean time, when you call our house, If you can't talk to me, don't call. You can leave a message because our girls are unable to get to it.<BR>I have a copy of the court papers,there is nothing on it about money. The Judge wrote that ow did not want any child support from H. And H is unemployed so knowing how he loves money, he would not promise something he knows that he does not have or will not be getting.<P>As of yet, she has not called back.<BR>I see it as a milestone and I she calls back, I will asked more questions about things I know.<P>Your input, please.<P>G&P

[QUOTE]Originally posted by GLORY&PRAISE:<BR>[B]Let me explain:<P>Do you think it is possible at all that her and your husband made a "side" agreement. That she let him agree to pay without a court order or that your husband said i will send money when I can and she took it wronge? We originally had no court ordered support but we got one when we realized any time the OW wants she can go after us through the courts. Sounds to me like she is trying to start trouble and you'll probably find yourselfs back in court where she will demand court oredered support. What did your husband say about the whole thing?

Based on her track record, everything XOW says is questionable and shouldn't be believed. I'm sorry she's still bothering your daughter(s)! I think the best question was: what does your H say? Is he being honest with you and following joint agreement with you?

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by GLORY&PRAISE:<BR><B>Let me explain:<P>OW called house, daughter answered phone (use someone else telephone). I heard daughter talking loud and thinking that it was some exfriends of my daughter, pick up the phone and told D that I had it. Well it turned out to be the ow. At first she just asked for H and would not give name. I said, "Who it this? Is this you J*****e, at first silent, then yea this J*****e. I said, what is it that you want. She said, I just want to talk to H, I said you are calling our house so what you ask or say to H you can tell me. <BR>I told her that we have only talked one and I think that it was time we cleared the air. She said that yes it was that one other time. I asked her why she was so hostile on the phone, when we did nothing to her, but you did something to me and our girls, because you knew that H was married and you still got pregnant. She said that he did not tell her or her family that he was married----lier---(she called my house in 97, she was 19 at the time, told me that she had my man---I told her that she could have him and I was laughing at the time and she did not know who she was playing with, but I don't play with little girls.)Did not put it together until later. We talked to her mother, stepfather and aunt, so they knew. She also said that she did not want him all they have it the boys together, because she was tried of the lies. Said she was calling for her money, I asked her what money, she said the money H is supposed to give her. I asked her how much? She said, he did not tell you, I said yes, but you still tell me.<BR>But she was calling because H was supposed to pay her $200 a week and she had not received it. I asked her when this was set up, I said was it when ya'll went to court. She said yes, I said OK I will pass the message. But in the mean time, when you call our house, If you can't talk to me, don't call. You can leave a message because our girls are unable to get to it.<BR>I have a copy of the court papers,there is nothing on it about money. The Judge wrote that ow did not want any child support from H. And H is unemployed so knowing how he loves money, he would not promise something he knows that he does not have or will not be getting.<P>As of yet, she has not called back.<BR>I see it as a milestone and I she calls back, I will asked more questions about things I know.<P>Your input, please.<P>G&P</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE>g&p I was just wondering if there was any update to the call and what your hubby had to say about it.<P>