Tell me how you do it. I am in awe.<P>My H and I are concerned about the baby just born to OW. She hasn't called or tried to find him. My issue from D-day was my baby, since I'm pregnant too. I pretty much found out everything at the same time, and now I am out of the tornado of emotions. OW doesn't seem to be the type of female to just dump her baby anyway. I was seeing how some other women on this board had miscarriages, and at first I was thinking why couldn't I have had one too? I was in that much pain, just knowing I was pregnant at the same time as this female. But now I just wonder how do I keep going at times. My situation turned out so typical. I just want to know how to keep going.

Dear Marshall6,<P>Exactly as Flowerseed has said, I could see us raising<BR>the other child if there were no contact with ow.<BR>The child in your life has been blessed with you for his<BR>mom!<P>Dear ymon,<P>As hard as it can be, you keep going One Day at a Time...<BR>concentrate on yourself and your baby-to-be.<BR>Your'e in my thoughts and prayers.<P>

Good morning,<BR>I was so touched my your message because I found out about the affair and the oc on a Monday, and found out I was pregnant on Friday. I had had a nervous breakdown during the week, and spent a few days in the hospital seriously tranquilized. I spend my entire pregnancy terrified about what those few days would do to my unborn baby. I received my one and only contact with the ow when I was 4 months pregnant. It sent me into labor, and I was on bedrest the entire remainder of my pregnancy. I was exhausted taking care of the oc, trying to hold my marriage together, and be pregnant. It was pure hell. I did deliver a beautiful son. He was sickly, due to my stressful pregnancy, and I had to nurse him to health for a good year. Now is robust! If I can offer you any hope, it DOES get easier. Pray without stopping. Pray for peace and strength. If I could go back, (my son is two now), I would never have given the ow the power to ruin my pregnancy. That was my time and my body, and my sons health at stake. I would have rebuked her from my heart and mind and enjoyed my last pregnancy. It is your baby and your life and you deserve to be happy. Continue praying, surround yourself with positive supportive people, dont allow the "drama" into your life. Stay steady, take care of yourself, make your life a safe place for you and your child. Best of luck and I will say a prayer for you. You can make it! I did...<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by ymon:<BR><B>Tell me how you do it. I am in awe.<P>My H and I are concerned about the baby just born to OW. She hasn't called or tried to find him. My issue from D-day was my baby, since I'm pregnant too. I pretty much found out everything at the same time, and now I am out of the tornado of emotions. OW doesn't seem to be the type of female to just dump her baby anyway. I was seeing how some other women on this board had miscarriages, and at first I was thinking why couldn't I have had one too? I was in that much pain, just knowing I was pregnant at the same time as this female. But now I just wonder how do I keep going at times. My situation turned out so typical. I just want to know how to keep going.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for discussing their experiences. Reading this information has helped me to realize that recovery is a process, I am doing just fine, and that everyone has a cross to bear (I am not a freak!)... I am learning that nearly everyone has a story to tell, when I had thought I was the only one to be humiliated in such a way. Keep up the good fight!

Dear Marshall,<P>Sorry I was so short earlier, I have a little more time now and I want to say what a witness you are. Such a tender heart. You are a beautiful person. So glad you baby boy is doing so well now.<P>As far as ow goes, I think you should get her rights terminated and adopt your son. This is your son. She left him in your care, for whatever reason. <P>I will be praying for you and your family...let us know how you are doing..<BR>Love<BR>broken_wings

Dear Marshall6<P>I applause you on how you are and has handle you situation. <P>GOd bless you and your family.<P>G&P (Formerly "IN THE SOUTH")