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#800182 06/04/01 09:00 PM
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H just called from work. I'll try to make long story short. OW took OC to his work place. Instead of avoiding her this time, he decided to confront her. H told her that he had been thinking about seeing OC (we discussed it last noght and today) but that he wouldn't if ow start telling me crap again or try to make me feel like crap again. He said that he won't do anything else to jeopardize our marriage. She said that she has nothing to do w/ me-as if her assinine actions do not affect me-BS! H also told her that what happened between them was f#!#ed up and that it would never happen again-it was a mistake. OW told her that she knew it was a mistake, but that what he had done to me was wrong-AS IF THE ***** WHORE HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH IT; WHO TOLD HER TO DO MY H THEN GET ON HIM SO SHE COULD GET SOME?(SORRY ABOUT THAT) She's an idiot. She knew he was married, she knew what she was doing. Its not like she hadn't done it before.<P>But here's what concerns me-something he said. One of the workers said that ow had been there on saturday and asked worker if he had seen what a nice new truck h had. I know h hasn't seen her. I told h that ow must be scoping out our house. H says that he uses same parking space everytime, but how would she know when he's working-schedule is pretty random, unless she's checking up on him and when he works. SICK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I think she's checking out our place. I should have gone with my evil instinct and in April when my car was stolen told them that she might have been a suspect. That still manages to bring smiles to my face.<P>Anyway, I asked h about oc and he said oc wasn't as cute as our son. I told him that thats not what I wanted to know-he said oc just looked like a baby with a cold. He also told me that seeing ow just re-emphasized how badly he f@#$%ed up. HE apoligized for screwing up so bad, and told me that he loved me very much.<P>Last night I told h that I didn't want oc to come between us, that I'd rather us go see the oc so that later he wouldn't resent me and our marriage because he couldn't see oc. H told me that he didn't think that that would happen. He said that he hadn't brought up issue of visiting oc because he didn't want to cause me anymore pain (is it just me or does anyone else out there have the occasional thought of its a little too late?) I told him that I would always feel some pain, but we needed to work past it. I kept on pushing the issue, then he said ok. I felt pain again. I insisted. Later in bed, I told him that I didn't know how strong I could be, but that the visit should tell me. I also told that I would be prepared to divorce if I didn't think I could handle it-I'd rather him be happy with his children-ie our son and oc. He just gave me a strange look. Then I asked you're ok with me leaving you? He said that oc would never come before me and our family-he wouldn't do anything to jeopardize our family. He said that he didn't have to /wouldn't make arrangement to see oc the next day its not like he didn't have plenty of other errands to run. That night I read something I believe cd posted about why she and h are ok w/ seeing oc. It made me realize that the same was true about me and my h. So, tiday I told my h about what cd had written and how I really was ok w/ seeing oc because I believed our relationship was just like that. He said thank you and he appreciated the words, but he wasn't going to see oc. Well, I've got to go.<P>What do you you think about ow? Am I just paranoid about her checking out the house?<P>ivc

#800183 06/04/01 11:09 PM
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IVC, you're doing great work on your marriage! Good for you!<P>I wouldn't be surprised if XOW was scoping out your place, his work, etc She could easily be obsessed. Document any and everything you can--you never know what the future holds.<P>Best wishes!<BR>J

#800184 06/05/01 05:03 AM
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IVC she gives me the creeps (OW). How else could she know about H's new truck? eeeewwwww.....<P>You and your H seem on the right track. Bless you.<P>love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

#800185 06/05/01 10:20 AM
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Hi ivc,<P>It sounds as if she is checking up on you.<BR>For some reason she thinks she is entitled to know<BR>what you have! I am sure there are many other places<BR>she could take the baby to get checked. How convienent<BR>she pick the one your H works at.<BR>Why would it be any of her business what your H drives<BR>or how much it paid for it...tell her to get a job and<BR>she can have her own truck!<BR>Your marriage sounds as strong as you are! Keep it up!!<BR>Take care, fluke


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