I just got an anonymous email from a woman who claims she may or may not know me well, but is not trying to be nosey but knows I have lost a lot of weight and looking stressed the last few months. ( all true). Now the email goes on to say a few weeks ago, she is sure she saw my h in a nearby town (where OW lives) walking baby in stroller, looking like the OC-she described her to a "t" including her partial race. Said definately was my H-maybe I needed someone to talk to. I immediately emailed and called H-and his first reaction was to say was it OW-not sure, doesn't use her original email address , which I know, and doesn't use her real name. What upsets me-when I read him the email, he didn't deny has seen OC-just said too swamped at work, needs to discuss this later.This is on eve of our getaway- I was just about ready to pack and get some nice things for trip, now I don't think I want to go on trip if H has been lying to me about seeing OC. What do you all thinK? this is a major love buster/marriage breaker for me.If this is true, I cannot handle any more lies from H. What do you think of him not denying it immediately? Why didn't he just say it isn't true? Help, I need input-now I feel sick all day, cannot pack for trip, do not know if I will be seeking an attorney tomorrow instead. I am fed up with all this lying!

First isb,<P>Calm down. I know how upsetting this is. But who ever e-mailed this to you was trying to upset you, otherwise they would have signed it. My guess it was OW ( or a friend of)<P>It does not take a brain scientist to figure out, that someone did NOT want you to have a nice time with your husband. And you know what ? you are doing EXACTLY what she wanted you to do. If you go to a lawyer..she wins, if you love bust your H for this...she wins...if you have a terrible time with hubby...she wins again..what great timing. dont you think???? <P>ISB, of all the people on this board, I am the one with the shortest fuse..when it comes to husbands. I am suggesting to you..that YOU LET THIS GO...IT WASNT SIGNED..IT MEANS NOTHING...dont let the witch win. Try to work on your marriage, and forget about the e-mail. face it anyone who has ever seen your H or OC could have wrote it..like OW sister/friend etc...get my drift??...<BR>Forward the e-mail to your Husband, tell him it was quite upsetting, ask him to ban that addy from your computer.<BR>and just ask if there is any truth to it ( maybe this was along time ago...before you two agreed on no contact)<P>then use it to your advange...this hurt me (true); OW has strange friends that are evil ( because this was a cruel, evil thing to do). I know the pain.. But you need to focus on your marriage..look at all these women here..they have been healed. It can happen for you too...But most and formost...DO NOT LET THAT ***** WIN...(I know I will be deleted for that)...it is funny..I actually felt when all this started..I dont care who my husband left me for as long as it wasnt HER...I do..but it was the point..she set out to destroy my family..and it appears unfortuantly for you..your NUT CASE is not through...<P>forward it to hubby...than delete it..thats my opinion<BR>

Dear lsb,<BR>Hmmmm, let's think about this...<P>You get an anonymous email the very same day that our crasher resurfaces under the name "thementor" (tormentor is more like it if you ask me)....<P>All of the details in the email are consistant with info. you have posted previously here on mb...<P>there's something rotten in the state of Denmark, lsb, and it sure aint your hubby.<P>lsb, honey, this is the same person that's been picking on you for weeks. Unless there is something in that email that you didn't mention to us, every bit of what was written could easily have been gleaned from your posts here. It's just another bit of pitiful subterfuge from the Cowardly Crasher.<P>Why oh why do they never pick on me. I am just itchin for it <BR>with love,<BR>cd

[QUOTE]Originally posted by lsb:<BR>It must be from OW or a friend of OW who wants to ruin your weekend trip. I agree with that. I may be wronge for saying so but i also believe part of the email may have been true, why wouldn't hubby just say it is Ow being a bi%#@ non of it is true and we will handle when I get home. Why not try and reassure you. Maybe it is all a lie and hubby is 100% innocent but if you are anything like me you will want the truth. Almost all of us on the boards have posted that we wished someone, anyone would have told us the truth about the afair or hubby's involvment with oc so if any of the email is true maybe you will get the truth sooner than later. i pray the email is a cruel joke though and your hubby is completely innocent. sending prayers your way.

lsb,<BR> Didnt you post your email address on here? Its kind of odd our sick bit** shows back up here and you get this sent to you.<BR> I'm sorry you have to keep having such awful stuff done to you. with love flowerseed

No, it can't be the poster. The email mentioned the race of child, and I never have in post. She also mentioned where child lives, exactly, and I never have in post, nor posted my email. So, it may be the OW or a friend/ relative, but unfortunately not who you think. I wish that were true. I also wonder why H didn't just say-it isn;t true- I hope it is just because he was wrapped up in work crisis, I know he was booked solid today, and part of me just can;t believe he would take the chance and go behind my back to see the OC- he knows how I would feel about that. But I never thought he would have an affair, and how wrong was I? I am praying when he comes home tonight, he will tell me he has not seen OC since we agreed to put it in back burner, and I sort of think the email may be from OW under another email address and it sort of sounds how she or someone like her may write--not totally literate in written English.But I agree with whatif-why couldn't he just say it wasn't true and let me move on? Not one phone call, email from him saying so. I have packed for our trip acting as if I am going- I hope I am. I think if H has done this, I don't see how I can go with him-but how would I tell the kids why we changed our plans? What a mess. Pray H has done right thing and abided by our agreement.This will kill me for sure if this is what he has done.

prayers for Isb,<BR>J

ISB please let us know what happens. I know you've never posted youe e-mail as I always wanted to write to you and you never posted it.<P>It does sound strange that the person would know about "race" but who else would have access to your e-mail besides ow????<P>Bless you.<BR>Love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

lsb,<P>You know, MyCross has a great point about ignoring that email. Then again, I know if I were in your position, I would find that hard to do. So, why not a suggestion somewhere in the middle. Ignore the email for now. Enjoy your trip away from the kids, the phone, the OC, the OW.. all of it. Relax for awhile, try to reconnect and take care of you for awhile. You need this. Take advantage of it. <BR>Don't take your problems with you. Leave them all at home. <P>When you get back, think about the email again. Think about who the sender is and what their motivation was for sending it. I'm sure both the sender and motivation wasn't in your best interest. So, take that for what it's worth. <P>Whatever you do, don't let this ruin your time with your husband. THis is well-earned time. You've lost enough. Time to take back your time. <P>Take good care, lsb,<BR>CoR <P><p>[This message has been edited by Couple_of_Reasons (edited June 05, 2001).]

LSB,<P>this is surely OW or one of OW's trashy friends. they are trying to be cruel to you and ruin you and H's getaway. if it was genuine, and someone you know, they would have signed it. ignore it. i know that is tough, but ignore it. go away, try to rekindle some old flames with H this weekend. do not open anymore emails from this person, just delete them. don't let them ruin your getaway sweety. that is exactly what they want. i think it is more likely that your H isn't seeing the OC or OW otherwise she wouldn't have to resort to these juvenile tactics.<P>prayers for you,<P>happy_girl

Dear lsb,<P>I just wanted to add my well wishes for you.<BR>I hope that you can somehow enjoy your free time<BR>with your husband. It does sound as if the ow is<BR>trying to ruin your time because she must know it<BR>is your anniversary. How sad that she feels she must<BR>stoop so low.<BR>Sending prayers your way. with love, fluke