July 2nd, exactly two days after our 12th anniversary is when we'll find out if we have to deal with this nightmare for another 18 years. July 1st is when I found out last year so I have three emotionally-draining days to look forward to...30th, 1st and then the 2nd.<P>I keep trying to find internet sites to help me determine whether or not the baby's delivery date makes it impossible that my H is the father. I've seen the baby and she doesn't look like him in the slightest. Not one iota.<P>I keep hoping that she was already pregnant when they met, she just didn't realize it. I read someone's post that celebrated the test results (not her H's child). I keep hoping beyond all hope that on July 2nd, our nightmare will end. The closer we come to that date, the more I'm beginning to change my mind about involvment. Not being extremely involved up until now has been good for us. I don't want to start dealing with her at all. By the way, I find it awfully strange that she has not been in contact with us regarding spending time with the baby. We are in mediation (delayed due to paternity testing), but how could any adult behave in such a way??? There are so many wholes in her entire story, that I really am wondering if it's his or not. He doesn't think the baby is his. I certainly hope it's not. <P>Well, I guess we'll see. Until then, I'm dreading those days!<BR>MM

Matthew I spent more time on pregnancy sites than I care to say. It didn't make one bit of difference. She had baby exactly to coincide with last time w/H.<P>Dna in late June. I expect it to be his....<P>Love<BR>Debi<P>ps...ow didn't look "out front" preg. till 8th mo. I was going crazy for nothing from Dec-March...<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Dear Matthew...<P>I've done the same thing with trying to pinpoint date.<P>There are sites that allow you to put in baby's<BR>birthdate and it will calculate an approx. conception date.<P>Also there is a fathers rights website that allows you<BR>to put in approx. conception date and it will figure<BR>birthdate...<P>I searched using "due date calendar" and "conception<BR>calendar", try typing that in and see what you come<BR>up with. <BR>As far as our case, it is still a toss up because she<BR>could have been 2 wks late...<BR>I will keep you and your H in my prayers as your<BR>Dday(s) come up.<P>Good Luck with the test results!!!I would love to hear<BR>of yet another big fat NEGATIVE result!<P>TAke care, fluke