Dear Catnip,<P>I know you are going through some very tough times, and it's hard to post. Been there (AM there!) Done that! But, I try anyway, because I have found that closing myself off, which is my usual style, is not helpful or healthy.<P>Please just let us know you're ok.<P>love, anniem

Dear anniem:<P>I really am OK...just in the muck and mire of survival and working a lot. I seem to want to reach out and talk about everyone else and not much about me because I pretty much understand what is going on with me and can deal with it now on my own. However, that being said, I promise that if I can't deal with it, I will post a thread and ask for help to work through it.<P>You are so sweet to ask about me and 'it', but i am OK, just burning the candle at both ends...lots of issues UNrelated to OW/OC thing right now in other areas of my life. I find it ironic that when one thing is settled another pops up immediately...no rest here. hahahaha<P>I know the things you are going through are pretty difficult right now. From what little I've read it sounds as if you are having a tough time determining which way you should go. At least you are back and posting and trying to work through it. I'll try to do better however I will be pretty much off the board again for a couple weeks because of fun stuff...my Mom and her sister are coming to stay with me for ten or twelve days on the 20th...it means that my life will be filled with frivolity and lunches and shopping...something I never do. We'll go to different little towns in the areas (it's all resort-y) and check out the wonderful unique shops...too bad I am low in ging-wa, moola, scratch or I could REALLY have fun. Hate to window shop...makes me feel deprived, but I will focus on the company and the laughs...you should see these two old broads...they are hilarious. My Mother has always been more fun than I am...too bad you don't live around here...we could take your mind off your troubles for a time.<P>Love<P>Catnip >^..^<<p>[This message has been edited by catnip (edited June 12, 2001).]