thats so disgusting<BR>i found out the ow in my situation has it too<P>I just for the life of me, (well, i guess cuz the guys WOULDN'T Touch them if they knew) i cannot imagine , THERE IS NO CURE!!!!!!!!<BR>Why are they having unprotected sex???<BR>yes they should tell, but then they wouldn't get any<BR>They should at least have learned from that to use protection for themselves to prevent catching anything else<BR>they could at least respect themselves if not the men<BR>i think i would stop sleeping around with people i just met <BR>if i had caught an incurable disease<P>But they are responsible enough to raise a child????

Never Be Same,<P>I guess I'm discusting to you too. <P>Well contrary to popular belief. Nice people who are selective about their sexual partners get herpes too. I am one of those nice people. And yes, we do get sex even after we tell potential partners. In fact, my husband married me knowing I had this disease. He loved me and had sex with me because he loved me. Not because of a bad hand I was dealt.<P>I was wearing a condom when I contracted the disease. My partner was unknowingly a carrier of the disease. He may or may not have known he was infectious at the time of transmission. But regardless. I did what is required to have "safe sex" and still was infected.<P>I do not consider myself discusting or dirty. And yes, I do respect myself. And people with narrow minds should open them up to realize that there are bad people in the world, some have herpes some don't, some have AIDS some don't, some are white and some are black, some are rich some are poor, some are from the north some from the south. My point is, there are bad people from every corner of life. <P>I personally refrain from grouping people as bad or good based on a commonality. I suggest you do the same.<P>Now if you have personal issues about your OW who had herpes. Vent them as such. But do realize 70 million people in the United States have the herpes virus. A whopping 80% do not even know they have the virus and display NO symptoms. So there's a good chance I'm not the only member on this forum who has the virus. Maybe even you??????? And probably someone you know and love.<P><P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Yes i certainly didn't mean to offend you<BR>cuz i very well could have caught it<BR>but see you did the things i think should be done if something unfortunate happens <BR>you were honest with your partners and used protection<BR>YES DEFInitely everyone makes mistakes and I am not putting down the disease in general <BR>but that is why So many people have it <BR>They are not being up front and honest or using protection<BR>well, at leasyt i am talking about th ow in our lives then i see other posts where the ow s also had that and if they got pregnant then in most likelihood they were not protecting themselves, the men . or the w's<BR>I am very thankful to God that we didn't catch it because we really could have<BR>and yes i also am angered at my h<BR>i had no idea he had been with anyone during our divorce<BR>and he could have easily given it to me<BR>I am mad at him for not being smart enough himself to know to BE ABSOLUTELY positive sober that he used protection<BR>but she should have too esp knowing!!!<BR>That is all im saying and it is generated to her<BR>not people like you, because that could have been me<BR>i think partners should have the right to know<BR>i only say she wouldn't ahve got any cuz H said he wouldn't have done it if he knew<BR>i really wish she would have been honest then we wouldn't be here<BR>cuz i also heard from many people how she wanted a baby<BR>Or yes , I wish h would have been the one who protected himself and us<BR>but then again i wish i would have not been so quick to call it quits <BR>marriage is work not all fun<BR>Please dont take offense<BR>it s not about you it IS about ow <BR>because it could have been me too like you through no fault of my own<BR>I feel bad please dont be angry<BR>I meant cuz SHE knowing she made a mistake doesn't change her ways <P> <P><BR>Everyone Does make mistakes but the point of them is to learn <BR>That is why I say if she caught this a few years ago <BR>I would have thought she would have thought now to always use safe sex for others and herself and not just to sleep with people the first time you meet them<P>YES YES my h did those things with her, he slept with her without knowing her, she ended up having a disease that doesn't go away and she didn't tell him<BR>he claims to have used a condom but then he "was so drunk" he can't be sure<P>BUT believe me I am sure he learned his lesson<BR>We were the only people we each had been with in like the last 8 years and look happened --- a disease , a baby<P>I made mistakes too i took my marriage for granted and filed for divorce rather than trying to talk and work ahrd at it

never-be-same,<BR> I to know the anger you feel when somebody knows they have a std and fails to inform the ones they could be spreading it to it is wrong. The troll in our situation also knew she had it long before she was with my h. Not only did she risk giving it to my h but she knew dam well about me didnt give a s*** about spreading it to me either. My h didnt use any protection. Yes I have been very angery at him for being so stupid that was one of the first things out of my mouth was about a possible preg or an std. He had assured me on the no possible preg never said anything about the std until after I found out about the preg or I should say by this time oc he was 2 weeks old when she called and said she had my h child. So I got to find out about both 6 months after I was lead to believe everything was going to be allright. The troll first tried to use the preg as a trap after he had told her it was never going to happen again and was telling me what he had done,a few weeks later she called and told him she was preg when that didnt work then she called him and told him about the herpes said I must of gave it to her from me being out screwing around. I dont think so. Also at the time when she called to inform my h she was telling him how the baby had a 80% chance of being born with it. That was when he told her to get rid of it he offered her the money but she refused. I wanted to kill her. She had this long before my h. I got this out of her when I called her about it I was so piss** oh it must have been my boyfriend before is all the excuse she could come up with.So she could tell him about it after he was not going to have anything more to do with her and try to use it for who knows what but couldnt tell him before she had sex with him. I was so freaked out when he told me this all I could think of was if this baby is born with it, was what the the med bills would be . He was o.k. as far as we know never heard anything at least she didnt say anything about it when I called to confront her on it the oc was a yr old then. So I do know how you feel. with love flowerseed<p>[This message has been edited by flowerseed (edited June 11, 2001).]