OW & OC support hearing is set for tomorrow. This is the 3rd time that my h and I go to court,to see the whore. Can you believe that the first we went to court for DNA testing was on Valentine's Day, first time I met OW & OC also. I wish you ladies could have seen her expression in her face when she saw me in court with my h, since she had called my h on his cellular the previous night and told him that if I went to court with him she will cause a big scene, yeah like I was going to let her be alone with my h , I guess that was my present for Valentine's meeting the whore and oc, and eversince I never missed a court date.<P>Now let's get to the main topic. The whore wants more money back due child support, also wants to dig in to my H asset. OW is doing this because she upset that that I am claiming separation and support for my two children, and oc is not getting the amount she thought he was going to receive and I took his first cut out of his paycheck when he was working, and also because my H doesn't have any contact with the oc. She also said that she will tell the courts that I am claiming support illegaly,while leaving with my husband. I am not worried since my husband has a different address, and if she has recorded us like she said, I will tell the judge he comes to see his children, so far I have not received any summons to appear in court, but I know she will bring that. I did follow the advice that I received in this forum, I started going to marriage counseling. We did ask our counselor for a letter, saying that we are working in our marriage, just in case I have to speak to the judge. <P>My biggest concern is the money issue, we do not have any, H lost his job and I am not working neither. My husband used to make good money, and she knew this since they used to work together. She thinks that he has hidden assets. H did provide too much unnecesarry information, and h was flaunting cash. When he met her we were doing financially well. My children were in private schools, dance school, we had just bought a new car, and were thinking to buy a house with H 401(K). She knew all this information, courtesy of my stupid H, where my kids went to school, how much we paid in tuition, etc. I get so upset at my husband how he risk everything for an old piece of [censored], since she's 7 years older than me. He has apologize so many times, he told me at the time he tought that he was in love with her, and was thing about leaving me. He has realize how wrong he was. I usually don't post so many details like this, afraid that ow somehow will read this board, but all this came in counseling yesterday, and I need to vent. <P>Now we are completely broke, H and I are not working we do not have no money,we are force to take our children from the private school and send them next year to public,and the only asset that we have is the car, and can't even afford an attorney. Ow has an attorney, I just found out one more piece of new info. from my h, yesterday at counseling, the attorney that ow is using, my h and ow had met him at Lamaze Classes, since the attorney's wife was also pregnant at the time, so ironic and so convenient for her. I was upset at my h for keeping this from me, he said he didn't want me to have anymore reminders, that he was there for her for the entire pregnancy. He did apologized, I know that he's terrible sorry for the pain that he has cause me, but everytime that I find out more details, it's like the pain from DD starts again. I just pray to God that everything goes well in court tomorrow. <P>I have one question for you ladies will I be able to attend court since she's making this accusations against me, but I do not want to give her the chance of being alone with my h, since she makes sure to bring oc to court knowing that the judge told her that after DNA testing not to bring him anymore, to find a babysitter, because it was very disruptive,when the baby starts crying,and the adults are speaking, she brings the child inside to the court room. Sorry for such a long post. Please ladies pray to God that everything goes well in court tomorrow. <P> <BR>

Hi Mina,<BR>I've been following your posts pretty closely because I think it is so great that you have filed for cs to reduce her claim. I did the same thing, as I have said before.<P>Since filing for support, I no longer attend cs hearings between h and ow. this is so that it doesn't look "funny" to the court, so I totally understand your fear that she will bring it up and use it against you and h. However, since she has stated that she intends to accuse you of it anyway, I would suggest that you tag along, explain to the judge that you are there only because she has harrassed you with these "outrageous accusations" and you felt the need to be present so that you could rebutt her claims. Act very indignant and tell them that of COURSE you have marital problems - who wouldn't after something like this? <P>Make certain that you bring the letter from your counselor (glad that the counseling suggestion is going to pan out for you) and have your h bring a letter or two addressed to him at his brother's address that will prove he is receiving mail there. If questioned about your personal life together, simply say that yes, you spend a great deal of time together. He is over at your house a lot to be with the children because you want their lives to be as normal as possible during the separation, and also because you are both committed to working dilligently towards an eventual reconciliation. But you are not ready at this time to take the final step and move back in together. Don't be evasive, but you really don't have to answer questions concerning your sex life...just simply state you will not discuss such things in front of ow, as it is none of her business. Be calm, be classy, and let ow show them what a piece of trash she really is.<P>Best of luck tomorrow. I will pray things work out. Let us know how it turns out. <P>-cd

Prayers for mina.<P>MJ

Prayers for you Mina. Also, excellent advice from CD, who has been there!<P>Love,<P>Tigger

Prayers for mina!<P>Angels comin' your way!

Thank you CD, Mrs. Job,tigger4jdt, and jenny, for your prayers and advice, well after I was posting yesterday, I received a phone call, from my brother our childhood friend died yesterday, I was very depressed and didn't even turn on the computer. It seems that I am getting bad news lately. I hope everything goes well in court, and once again thank you for your kind words and advice. I will keep you posted when I come back.

Good Luck Mina,<P> I'm sorry for all your trouble. I think in the end the OW shows herself for who/what she is and you will prevail. Be strong. Document everything!!! They can't take blood from a stone as they say. My prayers and thoughts are with you. I'm with you... I'd go to all the hearings and then use CD's suggestions...of course you have marital problems. One of the reasons I filed for divorce so quickly was to get my child support set in stone before the OW could. Nothing is unfair when you are protecting your children!!!<BR> Kris

Mina let us know how it goes. In Ohio babies are not allowed in court! Or kids.<P>I'll be watching for your post.<P>love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Mina,<P>I am so very sorry for your loss. That has to be devastating. I lost a friend a few years back from my early childhood. I hadnt seen her in several years before she died. She had been in a car accident in which the driver in the other car had been drinking and deliberately hit her. She was 15. Even though it had been years I was torn apart. I am sending double prayers your way. And let us know how court goes.<P>Love<BR>bw