Well we got the results and we do not know what anything means except it's 99.74% and combined paternity index is 380-1.<P>So finally an answer. I am happy it's over. Now we can get down to business. <P>Sent results by fax to atty. to see what next step is.<P>Love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Gem, I'm sorry. I wish lightning could have struck twice and that you would escape as MyCross did.<P>You sound like you are bearing up well, though.<P>Thoughts and prayers. Like you I prefer to deal with the known rather than the unknown and obsessively worried about which is my only other option given my personality.<P>MJ

Gem - I'm sorry that it couldn't have been another way but I guess miracles happen rarely (MyCross). You do sound like you are doing well. I think in your heart you must have felt like this was what was coming all along. Now the cards are on the table so to speak and you have to proceed from there. Good luck My thoughts are with you.<BR> Kris

Dear gem,<BR>That sucks...I know. But at least now you are not stuck in limbo anymore. Get cracking on asserting h's visitation rights. With infants, the sooner the better, and since the two of you have already had contact together with ow's permission, any argument against you participating in seeing oc in the future wont hold up. <BR>with love,<BR>cd

Gem,<BR>My condolances. You're a brave lady. May blessings abound in your future; may only good come from the bad...

Gem,<P>I'm soooo sad that you test didn't come out the way we all hoped. But echoing what everyone said. At least all of your cards are on the table now. And with your H on your side.... you can't loose.<P>Best of luck,<P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Hey Mrs.J, QuakerM, cd, Jenny and Zebra,<BR>I'm ok with it. You are right about asserting rights while he's still a baby.<BR>We will wait to see what the next step is w/atty.<P>Funny my H seemed in disbelief or something. Never mentioned it another time today. Just like a normal summer day.<P>I'm prepared to battle! H doesn't know. I think HE thinks she will move to Fla. w/her H.<P>Honestly as long as we do it together I'm ok. What God has joined together, never had a truer meaning eh?<P>Let you know what's up later on.<P>Love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Boo. Hiss.<P>Your husband had the same reaction as mine did...emotional shutdown. I think the final verdict is more shocking to them than it is to us because we have been obsessing about it day and night for months preparing ourselves for the final hurdle, thinking of little else, while they have been able to do the ostrich thing and bury their heads in the sand, hoping the results would come back negative.<P>Well, Gem, the results ARE negative as they hold a negative impact, however, that is not to say a lot of positive cannot come from this. And you, Dear Gem, are evolving at such an incredible rate, I dare say you are this month's Forum Queen, earning the title for grace and dignity.<P>Great attitude, Gem...your old man must be in awe.<P>Love<P>Catnip >^..^<

Dear mew mew Catnip,<BR>I accept the title of queen of the forum this month with gratitude and love.<P>I have to tell you it is with the grace of God that I have come this far. I began to look at the abundance of GOOD things God has bestowed on me....sight...hearing....boobs ,<BR>Another day on earth with my family, a repentant and loving husband, I have so much to be thankful for.<P>I started looking at things as gifts instead of seeing things so negative.<P>ow's pregnancy made my H realize what a horrible thing he had done to his family and friends because it affected EVERYONE we know.<P>Now he is the one who is so happy that he has his life back with me and it shows!!!!<P>Catnip I attended daily mass when this all started. I mostly cried all through the mass. I didn't care if others saw. I prayed and prayed. At times I doubted HE heard my prayers. Especially in march when I threw H out. I was devastated but slowly God allowed me to see with my circle of friends and family I would be ok w/o him. When I knew I'd be in pain but ok, things began to change. I became less needy. He sensed me slipping away. He knew it was up to him to lure me back. <P>Saying he'd do anything including not seeing baby AND we could move did it for me!! I calmed down and just opened my heart. Nothing but God's will is gonna happen now. I am at peace.<P>I thank each and every one of you for being here for me. I will always need all of you.<P>love<BR>Debi <P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

I am so sorry. I was so hoping for you too. I know there is not anything I can say, except I am here for you. (((hugs)))

Dear Gem,<P>Well at least now you know for certain.<BR>I could tell you knew in your heart but there<BR>is only that HOPE...<BR>It is comforting to hear your faith, your renewed<BR>committment to H and your open heart.<BR>It really struck a chord in me when you said you<BR>started focusing on the positive aspects of your<BR>life, instead of ONLY the negative. <BR>Think of you everyday, keep up the good fight.<BR>Love, fluke