I know it has been a while since I have posted. I've been working and trying to stay busy lately. But, I'm still here. Nothing has happened lately. We got the new lawyer and she is requesting a new judge. The only new thing is that last Thursday (my MIL watches SIL's kids on Thursdays) my BIL's daughter was here too. I didn't really think anything of it. But when H came home my FIL said something to him about why couldn't I have picked her up. And H says, "Well, I got really p*ssed when mom called me at work and asked me to get her because "OW" couldn't". His stupid brother asked OW to babysit his kid overnight. UGHHH! This family is retarded. Then the next morning I was joking with SIL about him (BIL)wanting OW and it was probably his kid. I totaly forgot his real kid was here. She told him and he called me raising Hell that night. Threatening me. What ever. My H got really mad. Well, anyways, he called this morning and apologized to H and said that it wasn't the first time someone had said that. HAHA Well, the whole reason I addressed this to you was to get some info on the "separation" thing. I am seriously considering it. I don't want to go through with a divorce right now. We filed for a modification on cs. Can I still say we are separated and get it? How do you go about it? Any info will be very appreciated. Thank you Jessry

Hi Jessry,<BR>Sorry you're having problems with idiot inlaws. Mine are crappy, but at least they don't associate with ow - don't even know about oc either (h's choice, he's not close to any of them.)<P>Separation: In my state (PA) there is no longer any such thing as a "legal separation". If a husband and wife say they are not together, and can show different addresses, they're considered separated, and cs can be filed. I forget where you're from (remind me!) but here all I had to do was go to Domestic Relations and say "I'm separated from my h and I want to file for cs." Simple as that. Our house is huge and used to be broken up into separate living quarters (during WWII it was a boarding house of some kind for wives whose h's had gone off to war) so we just said that h was living in one part and I was living in another. We call his "half" apartment b and mine apartment a. That's all there was to it. We were even very open about "wanting to reconcile someday" and spending "a lot" of time together. After my order was established, h filed for modification to reduce ow's take. Worked like a charm. If you don't have the convenient set up I do, perhaps one of you can use a friend's address or something. Let me know if you have any more questions, or if something is still unclear.<BR>with love,<BR>cd

Hey! Thanks for the info. I live in Florida. I'm going to look into the laws for that here. On a sadder note, we are taking our computer back to the store tomorrow. We can't afford the payments anymore. So, I won't be on anymore, or at least for a while. Thanks for all your help in all this. Jessry