Yesterday was the 2 week check up for bambino #2. After appt. she decided to take baby and 3 year old to the office to show everyone. Remember this 3 year old is now beginning to understand "daddy". This is a very small office, and I am sure people have been gossiping for 4 years now, but then to parade baby in there, and have 3 year old come bounding into H office. Unfortunately I blasted him for her bad judgement. What was she thinking? did she unconsciously want her to come running up and say hi daddy? She has not taken her up to the office in the past when she knew he was there purposely so there would not be any incident. His comment, and rightfully so is that she has every right to do what she wants with the children, but it still really ticks me off. So that is the beginning of a very long weekend.

Dear Tina,<P>Nuts? I think not. She is just your typical, crafty OW -- with incredible nerve and shameless to boot.<P>I am so sorry that you are dealing with so many things at this point -- OW from hell, daughter's wedding ...<P>Try not to be angry with your H over his response. Remember that he is in a very difficult position. He has committed to your marriage, but the OW still has the power to make life hell for him. (As is obvious from her visit to the office).<P>If he reacts very badly, she may make that a daily event. Instead, if she did not get the rise out of him that she expected, it won't be fun anymore and she may stop it. Unfortunately, your H does not have a lot of control over her at this point. It is so hard for you but try to remember that you have not done anything wrong. You have nothing to be ashamed of.<P>You are the one who spoke marriage vows and you are trying to work it out. The OW wants desperately what you already have. Keep your cool and let it be clear that you and your H are on the same page, sharing and dealing with this together. Guaranteed that will drive her crazy.<P>This is a really rough road. I hope you will find some comfort in the fact that we are all travelling it with you and we are here for support.<P>love,<BR>heavenly

Tina he can warn her to stay away. If she doesn't document the times she shows up. File harrassment charges!<P>H should agree to that. If he doesn't...understand what Heavenly said to be true.<P>Love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....