I have been in a pretty good mood, this last couple of days, since I started a new part-time job. I am trying to work things out with H, since finding him in ow apartment two weeks ago. I have follow some of the advice I have been given in this forum. Like they said it never last.<P>Yesterday I went to visit my h sister-in-law, and I also went to pick up h mail, as you know I am claiming child suport, h has to have a different address. Ow knows about this address, since it's written in the court papers. Ow no longer send letter at my address, since I went to my local precinct and file a complaint for harassment. H sister-in-law gave me h mail, one envelope look suspicious with no name and address that I didn't recognize, so I open the envelope, ow send h a postcard picture of oc, saying looks who's a year old. Oc will be a year old this Wednesday. I have not told h of this, since I do not trust him, he told me that Ow & OC were moving to Florida, in two months,it seems that h continues to lie, the envelope has a different address somewhere in Smithtown New York, the envelope is postmark somewhere else. I do not know what to think of this, I called ow house, but when I called the operator told me her number was change and they gave me her new number, but the funny thing her new number is really her cellular phone number. I do not know what to think of this. Did she move or change her phone number? Ow is loose canon. I am just so tired, how can I recover from this nightmare if ow continues to send pictures of oc to make h feel guilty, and if she move I have to worry that my h will see oc behind my back, since I wouldn't know her new address. I think the only way I can recover from this if h and I move very far away from ow & oc, but we do not have the money.

mina that's a tough one. I wouldn't hide pictures from H. I would ask her to STOP sending things. Rather H should tell her he will file harrassment charges if she continues to invade your lives.<P>I think you think he's seeing oc behind your back.<P>You guys must come clean with each other or this will never move to a true healing point.<P>I have to say your H had no control over her mailings. He can however tell her to STOP!!!!!<P>love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Dear gemini,<P>I follow your advice, I told h ow send him a picture of oc. H didn't say anything, I ask him to file harrasment charges agaisn't ow, but he didn't do it. I also ask him if he knows where ow & oc move to, he said he doesn't know. If he knows he will not tell me after the scene I created when I found him at ow apartment. I am not sure if he's seeing oc behind my back, but sometimes I do get the feeling.

Mina you have to talk to H. Tell him you're still wondering about visits etc....tell him (and mean it) you won't blow up at the truth. You can't live in limbo anymore. You want to love him again but things that have happened recently prevent you from that.<P>Again I say if you feel it...it's probably true.<P>All along I suspected ow was calling H over pregnancy and fatherhood issues....SHE WAS!!!! H was trying to appease her and keep me!!! He's so glad he came clean. She's showing her true reasons for pregnancy now that H puts her out of the picture. She will not let ME call to set up visits. She wants H to call. Tough. If she was only worried about the baby having a dad she'd do it anyway we said.<P>Bless you.....<P>love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....