I did NOT say it was irresponsible to give a child up for adoption! I said that in the case of an affair, it is the RESPONSIBLE thing for the OW to do. Quit trying to put words in my mouth. I corrected you on that thread and you didn't respond and here you are mis-quoting me again. Stop saying I said things that I did not say!<P>I believe it is right for a mother to give a child up for adoption in an affair because no matter what, someday the child will probably come to learn the circumstances around their existance and will want to know why he or she may have been rejected etc etc. I just think adoption, where both parents want the child is the best outcome. Regarding single moms I think it all depends. Sure, I think it's BEST that the child is in a two parent loving home but that doesn't mean that a single mom or dad can't do a wonderful job on their own. I mean it happens all the time when a parent dies or in divorces where one parent isn't around. I think it all depends on the circumstances. In an affair, if the OW refuses to give the child up for adoption, which again, I said was the RESPONSIBLE thing to do, then I think at that point the best thing for the child is to have both parents involved. I think it's always in the child's best interest to have both parents involved when it's possible.

BBB,<P>If you would like everyone to chill.....calling someone out by name..again...isnt the way to do it. Not everyone thinks the same way here, just look at whatif. She is respectful of everyone and speaks of her H alone. She does not make comments that particularly point fingers at anyone else or our Hs. Look at your H, not mine. I will worry about mine. Just watch those "blanket comments" and as someone else stated if you cant say anything nice..."<P>With Luck<BR>bw

Excuse me Broken-wings. When someone blatantly misquotes me and I try once to address it on that thread but they she does it AGAIN, yes, I will make a point of telling her to stop misquoting me. Sorry if you have an issue with that, but she keeps quoting me as saying that adoption is irresponsible and that is THE OPPOSITE of what I said. I will defend myself if needed

BBB,<P>I may have misread what you typed. Someone mentioned adoption and in the very next post the first thing you wrote was "It's irresponsible." I thought you were talking about adoption. I apologize that I understood it wrong. I did go back on Monday after you said you had not said that and found the post that made me think that was what you were talking about. When I went to look at it on Tuesday, it was gone. <P>By the way, thanks for your note on the topic how you found out about the oc. It calmed me down and even made me smile. Some of us have ok ow and some of us have Jerry Springer rejects. My husband made the choice to stick me with the Jerry Springer type. <p>[This message has been edited by samoyed (edited August 01, 2001).]

Yeah, I know what you mean about the Jerry Springer OW. I am not sure which I am dealing with but unfortunately I think it's the psycho type. By the way, sorry about all the hostility. My mind is a mess these days and I didn't mean to come off like such a wench!!!

Hi Bonnie,<P>Thanks and I understand. I think all of us on here have our times when life is harder and we react with more passion. <P>Actually, you can see that I edited my reply. The first part I left, but I added some sarcastic remark to the bottom. I read your reply to me in another post and it made me feel good inside, but then I remembered my sarcasm. I felt like a heel so I came back and changed it to how I felt after calming down. Sometimes all it takes is a smile and kind word to help heal. Thanks for starting it! <P>Sorry for not replying sooner but I am off soon for a little 5-day getaway and I haven't been online because I have been getting ready. We have started taking more trips together to have good, quality time alone and it sure helps. <BR>

Hope you have a GREAT time