To all of you who are engaging in a bickering hateful interaction. I read posts over the last few months pulling what I need out of them for support in my own situation. And I have watched as different posters some probably OW some probably BS come here and get bashed and forced to leave. I have also watched as some of them antagonize the wives on this board. I think it is a pity so much time is waisted arguing over the OW. I know in my own situation I went through stages and have had good days and bad days. I have been angry at the skanks my ex chose to play with one day and forgiving the next. And I have been on the other side, shamefully as an OW. I made a horrible mistake. My point is that each of us is in a different stage as far as our healing is concerned. The OW or BS who come here harshly making blanket statements maybe should think first and use a little tact and the BS who have been here for a long time should try to be a little more welcoming and understanding of other peoples way of dealing with the pain of affairs and OC. I worry that some of the women that were run off may actually be BS's who needed the support and now are out there without it. <P>Well its not up to me how people behave, but i do hope that everybody on this board follow the philosophy our mom taught us - if you don't have something nice to say don't say anything at all!

Amen!

I totally agree as well.