How are you doing honey? Just been thinking about you and wondering how it is going. It must be horrible to be sooooo sure of something and just not have anything concrete. <BR>Love<BR>bw

Broken wing<P>im sorry i just saw this post tonight..ty so much for your concern..as many of you who already know i go throughh many emotions in my day from the time i wake up to the time i go to sleep..some extreme ups and extreme downs and everything in between...sometimes I just want to run from my thinking just to get some rest..the only hope i have is that in time this fades at least until something else slaps me in the face..to be perfectly honest with you all..i doubt i will ever find out unless a completely dumb mistake is made..i feel she is too scared to call me, and i also think becasue he is so afraid to lose the daughter we have that he is paying her well to stay on the side..some lucky who*re landed a gold mine..this is the payment i get for the last 12 years of being his f**ing slave to make him what he is now..and *******..im crying again..i need a break

Tess,<P>This just is not fair to you at all. Is it hard to know if there is money missing? Maybe you should offer to take over the finances. Or maybe counseling would be a good device. He might feel easier about admitting something. But you are probably just driving yourself crazy. Maybe you could bring MB up to him..."you know honey, I have foudn the most incredible group of people...yada yada..." maybe give him an opening. Emphasize how we are all working on our marriages and all that. It probably wont work but he might realize that you do know if he knows you are here. I hope you find the answers you need and I pray it is not what you think.<BR>Love<BR>bw

Im back for about a half hour until he returns home from work..I have stewed over this by myself for a long time without him having any thought that its on my mind except for maybe twice, once when i found the stuff on the computer in january and questioned him..and another time a few months back during an intense fight..i think i will wait a little longer and then plant a recorder in his car..i wanted to let this fade being that he has turned into a model husband and father since it happened and has done everything under the sun to have me forget what happened though he doesnt remember half of it or things he said then to incriminate himself...(I do vividly)..i think a voice activated one will work just fine..i guess it couldnt hurt unless he finds it..it seems like a risk worth taking..what do you think?

lol...of course he doesnt remember, they never do...<P>Anyways, I dont think the tape recorder would be any worse than a PI. IT is a little cheaper and it is the same basic concept. Whatever makes you feel more at ease at this point...just remember not to do this unless you are willing to hear everything. I guess at this point you are. good luck and I hope you end up coming here to tell us it was nothing. I pray for you.<BR>Love<BR>bw

If it is voice activated, you might only get the radio. ember

Thax broken and ember<P>I think if it is the voice activated one you will get the radio, but if i get a long enough tape he will probably turn the radio down to talk on the cell..i think i will get something though, even soemthing small will help..i posted another thread headed "Another Coincedence" please read that and tell me what you think..OK..so I think i must do this now<P>love you guys

Incognitess, if you feel that desparate, get a lo-jack. They go by different names. Take your H's car one day, and get a radar device installed. They hide it in the car somewhere. My girlfriend did it, and could call every half hour for a report on where the car was. Or a daily report of all the stops the car made with location.<P>Good luck, ember

How much does that cost?

I think around $600, depending on which state. ember