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I feel the need to start a thread that you simply state your name and whether or not you are involved with visitation. <P><BR>Once we have all stated our "position" on the matter, those who are mislead in thinking we are all on the "same side" can look up posts where we support others who don't make our identical choices.<P>Perhaps this will settle the misconception that the women/men here only support those that have made the same choices.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
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zebrababy<BR>8 months past d-day<BR>visitation up until 3 weeks ago<BR>visitation suspended indefinately<P><P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
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8 months since d-day.<BR>1 visit.<BR>Visits stopped by ow.<BR>Yet to go to court for visits as ow has been out of state all summer.<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....
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2 years 11 months past d-day.<BR>No visitation or contact.<P>Jtigger
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4 years past d-day<BR>No visitation; No contact
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D-day was five, and one-half years ago. <P>One of the OC's came to our state. The other chose to stay home. The one that came, met all half siblings, all grown.<P>I met OW and, this time, both OC's. I flew to her state, and stayed with her for a week-end. <P>All this happened the first six months after d-day.<P>H and I have had no contact for the past five years.<P>ember
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D-day was 1 year ago.<P>I was the one pregnant, and we have kept the baby, Abbi, and are raising her with her sister and brother. We will tell her when she is older the circumstances of her birth, but that Sailorman is and always will be her true Daddy.
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2yrs 3months, No visitation or contact<BR>Flowerseed
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Former OW<BR>Raised grown OC with NO CONTACT from MM & W<BR>OC turned out okay!<BR>Opportunity for identity issues, but identity crises are resolved in Christ.<P>Now married, no As<BR>Raising twins<BR>Found MB last March, implementing Harley principles<BR>Endeavoring to fully understand devastation of As<BR>Realizing no matter how good the marriage, no one is immune to an A
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K<BR>3 years 9 months past d-day<BR>wife's affair over for 3 years<BR>raising a child from affair, 2.5 years old<BR>No OM involvement, although OM knew about pregnancy<BR>No child support issues
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4months past Dday<BR>2 oc (3 yrs. and 6 weeks) by same OW, still working for him as his assistant. H involved in visitation, I am not at this time. Will start in Sept. after both our grown children are away at school and working.<BR>Tina
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up up up. especially for those with visitation. i know there's more of those couples out there.<P>z.
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1 year, 1 month past d-day<BR>OC 15 months old<BR>no contact w/ ow/oc<BR>cs settled out of court
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DDay 2 years<BR>oc one and a half<BR>yes visiatation with MY WHOLE family involved waiting on court date for shared legal custody
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NEW HERE!!<BR>3-year on again, off again affair, found out in March of '97<BR>Visitation, up and down until court ordered visitation to my husband because OW didnt want me involved<BR>My stepdaughter is 3 1/2 is well attached to my family and not my husbands family
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Over 2 yrs since d-day<BR>Oc is almost 2<BR>No contact due to OW, she dropped her cs case since she didnt want ME involved and then moved without giving a forwarding address. Contact with OW a few times through email, but she refuses to go through me, so it is her loss.
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D-day, three and a half years ago, we just got visitation after months of fighting in court, ow wants no contact, but it was court ordered. we have had visitation since Feb of this year. Things are going good, our children and the oc are doing great. Ow tries every trick she can to avoid visitation, we are going back to court soon to try and get extended time we only see oc once a week and we all want more. Cs court ordered and paid for two years. Gabi1116
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dday 4 mos. ago, 1 visit, not sure if i want my h to have any more, child almost 13 yrs. old
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10 months since D day<BR>OC 7 months old<BR>No Visitation or contact with OC because OW doesn't want her around me.
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3 years recovery.<BR>Contact via mail only.<BR>Possible visitation later.
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