I have a post in Emotional Needs and someone referred me to this forum. I would like to tell me story here and get some feedback, but I do not want to re-type it because it's too much to type AND it may lose something in the transcription!LOL! Can someone tell me if it is possible to move my post to this forum, and if so, how do I go about doing it?

I am not very good at this computer stuff, so someone else may have a better suggestion, but...<P>you can go to your post..open it and copy the web address..highlight in and push Ctrl and C and then come back here to edit your post and paste it...Ctrl and V<P>or..you can copy the whold post and paste the whold post here<P>Hope this helped...<P>Love<BR>broken_wings

I tried the second suggestion, but I wasn't able to do it!!!I'm only semi-literate!

Is this the URL you wanted to post here?<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum8/HTML/005482.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum8/HTML/005482.html</A> <P>Or, like broken_wings said, drag your cursor over all the typed info, copy and paste into a brand new post here...<P>Read your story, and I feel your hurt and anger. One girl your husband knew about and chose not to tell you, but this new situation, he didn't know about. Still, he should not be discounting your feelings and you are entitled to be upset.<P>God has a way of shattering our expectations in marriage so that we can trust in Him exclusively and remove our hopes from humans. You will make it. You will find a lot of support here. It sounds like your husband will benefit from understanding how important honesty is to you (check out the emotional needs questionnaire and the love buster questionnaire). May God bless you with strength.<P>Hope that helps?!<p>[This message has been edited by BINthereDUNthat (edited August 07, 2001).]

Dear sickofthis,<BR>My heart goes out to you. Thanks to BTDT I was able to read your story. Please read some of the Harleys principles. See if that can help a little now. It has been a godsend to me and H.<P>I cannot believe his cavalier attitude! I will pray for you today. Come to this board often for support.<P>I just saw you asking what the reason is for oc's. We may never know. Perhaps it is God testing our love for him. Testing that if we truly trust in the Lord things will be ok. I trusted HIM and he's filled my life full now. Not w/o some pain but who in life is problem free? Our reward for loving HIM is heaven.<P>love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....<p>[This message has been edited by gemini1 (edited August 07, 2001).]

Sick of this, I did it for you so sorry for your pain.<BR> with love flowrseed--------------------------------------------------------------------------------<BR>sickofthis story,<BR>I have already posted some of my story on this board, but here goes:<BR>My husband and I got married in 1996 and had been married for only one month when we got a registered letter from a nearby state's Prosecuting Attorney. When I asked my H about it that evening, he stated that the letter was in reference to an individual that he had had to prosecute while working for one of the banks in that state. Of course, I believed him.....Well, not long after, we got another one of these letters and I was starting to wonder......I asked him again and I don't remember what the answeer was this time, but later that evening as we pulled up onto the parking lot of our chuch for service that night, he recounted this sad, sob story about how when he was getting ready to graduate, he had attended some party and his fraternity brothers (knowing he was drunk), thought it would be funny to hook him back up with a girl that he had seen previously on several occasions. LONG STORY SHORT: he had been proven to be the father of her then 3 year old daughter. He said that he had told me the lie earlier, because he just KNEW that this child was not going to be his. Needless to say, I was very angry for several reasons: (1) He should have come to me with the truth from the beginning - he first got wind of this in March 1996, but we did not marry until May 1996; (2) I was very proud and happy that we were going to have a marriage with no outside "conflicts" - THIS WAS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT ME; (3) He and his family could not seem to understand why I was upset about the whole thing....the continued to discuss who she looked like and all this crap!!! Anyway, we wound up being ordered to pay support in the amount of 338.00 per month. We did not know at the time, that I was also expecting a baby. Even after the birth of my son AND my daughter, my husband has continued paying this same amount of support as though he has no other children and in spite of the fact that the mother has now finished her degree and is working full time everyday, as well. In addition to all of this, my husband never bothered to tell my parents about this child. They only know now, because I told them because I did not want my 3 year old son to relay something like that to his grandparents. That was ultimately the responsibility of his FATHER. All of this has contributed to me having a really hard time accepting the situation. The child has come to town for a day or overnight on several occasions, as well as my H going to her home - still in the other state. It was just last week that she came and stayed with us and her grandmother (my MIL) for an extended stay that I finally said, "I CAN do this. I HAVE to do this. This is not the child's fault."<BR>WELL NOW GUESS WHAT? Today the doorbell rings and I go to the door to find the mail carrier there with a registered letter from the same aforementioned state agency. I'm thinking: "I know my H has been making those payments and on time! What is this about?" So I innocently open it to find that now, another woman is claiming that he is the father of her 9 year child!!!!! I just stood there! I cannot believe that this has happened to me TWICE, now! Here's why I'm posting: My H keeps saying, "It'll be okay. Cheer up. I'll get it striaghtened out! Stop being so down." Do I not have a reason to be even be a little upset? I did not count on this at all, let alone TWICE! I think I should be able to be a little upset. We are living confortably, but yet a little close to the edge, we have one child in daycare and another that is starting Christian school in a few weeks. Besides all that I feel personally, it hurts me to think that my children may not be able to attend this school because we have to pay out all of this money to support these other children. It also pains me to think about my children having to know later that their father fathered children with at least 2 other women other than their mom. Let me say this finally, I DO think that my husband should support his children and have relationships with them, it has just been hard finding out all of this stuff the way that I found out. It just really complicates an already shaky situation. <BR> <BR> <P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by flowerseed (edited August 07, 2001).]

Please feel free to ask your forum moderator to move posts or to copy them from forum to forum. I (and other moderators) have the capability to do this with relative ease so that the post is complete, and to leave the original where it was first posted. And if it is something that we cannot do, we can also request that the forum administrator do it for us.<BR><P>------------------<BR><B>Tempest</B>, Moderator<BR>Marriage Builders Infidelity Forums:<BR><I>General Questions II, Just Found Out...,<BR>Plan A/Plan B, In Recovery</I> <BR><I>Pregnancy/Child</I> and <BR><I>Read-Only Posts</I>