I noticed a post from someone who used Stunnded Dad Fast Recovering. In his profile he wrote that he is recovering from his wife's affair with a sexual predator. Well the same thing happened to me. I've been married for 17yrs. I was never once tempted to have an affair. This man came along and totally pursued me and to my mistake, I took the plunge. The affair lasted about a month. During that time I was about to loose my mind. I new what I was doing was wrong but the addiction to this man was so strong that I kept coming back. This man was full of lies and deceit. After I consulted a mutual friend of mine and the OM and asked if this guy had a reputation about being a womanizer. If fact I had confessed my affair to my paster and my paster told me he would bet I wasn't the first or last and prob. not the only one. Well word got back to the OM that I thought he was a predator. So that stopped the physical aspect of the relationship but the emotional went on. In fact I still had a hard time letting go. Each time i tried to push him away, he would say something to the aspect that there was a future together etc. you see his persuit stopped but :teary: loved to see me pursueing him. He didn't like to give up the woman all together. Well come to find out, this man had been seeing another woman while pursueing me and I suspect he had something going at one time with our mutual friend. How knows who else. Well I was ready to get out of the pit I put myself in and thanks for my loving spouse, I confessed my affair, we have been going to counseling and my marriage has never been better. I problem i have is that i feel as if i was attacked by a rapist but got away before he actuely raped me. I looking for someone who has gone through this same situation to help me with the feeling of being violated.

<small>[ November 10, 2003, 06:30 PM: Message edited by: Truely Blessed ]</small>