Hey you wonderful herb, the delight of kitties everywhere! I am glad to hear you posting. You sound strong and positive. Sometimes getting angry is really good for you.<P>Just know we are all cheering for you to build a better life. You deserve it. You're right; you have done everything you can.<P>MJ

Catnip, I just wanted to add my voice of support to all the others. You have been such a rock of support here please stay in touch. I am sorry things have gone the way they have for you. But "to thine own self be true". You have been through such misery, it's time to let him go and learn the errors of his ways. I hope that once he has to stand on his own he will not self-destruct, but you must go on.<BR>You have done all you can. If you want to take him back after/if he gets straight, then do so. But don't let him drag you down into his morass of self-destruction.<BR> I personally have admired you, your strength and your ability to cope with your situation. you just keep on keeping on Girl. You will survive and be even more strong, if that's possible, than you have been.<BR>Keep posting here to us.<BR>TG

Hey Mrs. Job!<P>Perhaps someday I will be the delight of a special Cool Cat who appreciates my worth...if not, I am happy to be sans Tomcats.<P>I am online right now awaiting the arrival of my brother, who unlike me, has spent 42 years on this planet, single. He is spending the next couple days with me while I pack boxes and make arrangements for the great escape.<P>My brother has spent his life pursuing his career as a graphic artist and a rock guitarist, song writer and failed miserably at the latter, even though his stuff is very good...really. <P>He has a penchant for off beat, avant garde music which does not appeal to the masses but to a small ecclectic group of intellectual types and starving artists who have less money than he does. At any rate, he's a hoot and I love his dry, dark humor. I am always trying to find some sweet young thing for him but he's so picky. Good for him. He is tall and handsome and lived in England with his mother (Dad's second wife) for the first ten years of his life and longs to return and work there because he has some family there and great childhood memories.<P>I've never been there. His mother hated me and treated me horribly the entire time my dad was married to her. She acted as if I were an OC when my parents were divorced for years before they even met. So, my brother's mother kept us apart until he was 19 and moved to my state. We've become rather close and he is the only one in our family who knows about the OC and what happened three years ago because he was there with me when it all unraveled.<P>Well, I've probably told you much more than you wanted or needed to know. See what happens when I have time to kill? Blah, blah, blah, life story.<P>BTW...how goes the battle? What is the latest? I'll go back and read your threads and catch up.<P>Love<P>Catnip =^^=

Texas Girl!<P>When I come to Dallas to meet with my attorney for this Personal Injury suit, I would LOVE to get together with you. We have so many parallels, TG, and I have often wished we could talk about some of them.<P>Thanks for your love and support, your understanding and compassion for my situation. If and when my husband recovers from this, he will require the psychiatric stamp of approval on his a$$ before I let him come back. I am going to miss him so and I still love the jerk but I am no fool and I am a huge survivalist and into my own self preservation now.<P>There should be one of those survivialist shows on TV about THIS situation. I'd win. <P>So would you and most of the people on this site.<P>Love<P>Catnip =^^=

Catnip,<P>What in the world is going on?? I was going to add that I missed you too and Im glad you are back, but what happened? Did I miss this post? Where is your H? I didnt plan on posting tonight, although I have caught up on everything and am so proud of Unsure and prayers are with NGU...I cut my finger last night and it makes it a pain to type. But what is up with your life? You have been such an inspiration to me and I have always bragged to my H about what a wonderful woman this Catnip person is (although it is strange when I talk about these wonderful people...Catnip, CD, NGU, Zebra, Fluke, Gabi, Beenthere..,K,MrsJ, IVC, Flowerseed, Tigger, whatif, and everyone..(fingers hurting)) it sounds kinda silly to call my friends by these names . Anyways, sorry to get off on a rollcall thing , but Cat you have always been a rock! Please know that whatever it is I will be praying full force for you...<P>{{{{{{{{{{Catnip}}}}}}}}}}}<P>My Highest Love and Admiration,<P>bw

BW,<P>I too feel silly when referring to my friends names. they sound so nickelodeon! <P>and the funny thing is i know most everyone's real name, but can't remember them.<P>Z.<P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Catnip I always looked forward to seeing your ears and whiskers when I was lurking. <P>BW- Thank ou very much you ladies have made me feel so much better about my situation.<P>Unsure<BR>

Dear Catnip,<BR>Just wanted to add my support to your big move. It's a Harley Plan B in the making, huh? You're a smart, gutsy girl! And well, you are still in MB'er mode. You didn't think that you could be recommending these principles to so many and not be held accountable yourself, now did you? Nevertheless, you are not to be mistreated under any circumstances.<P>I still see you guys back to your cozy, foot-rubbing evenings together through my eyes of faith. He's not himself right now, is all. Once alcohol is out of the picture, you will have your hubby back for good, I'm sure.<P>Stay strong like the woman you are and I wish you all God's best. NEVER LEAVE THIS HAVEN YOU CREATED for the comfort and safety of soooo many! Your wisdom and input is greatly needed.<P>Also, don't think for one minute that the devil is going to pat you on the back and congratulate you for helping so many marriages. But not to worry, God will only let him get his grimy paws so close to you then he has to flee. Keep submitting yourself to God and the enemy absolutely WILL flee. <P>You, your husband, and your marriage belong to God. Keep your joy in knowing that God is in control and He knows your schedule (He's usually not in a hurry--never late, but never early either...) He knows what's up and His hand is on the situation. He knows who will make the greatest positive impact on your husband and who your husband will listen to right now so in the meantime, I'll be praying those types of godly people into David's life...<P>Do what you gotta do, no second guessing, and keep your head held up high. Sending many prayers and squeezes...