Short history I am soon to be delivering a baby and my H kicked me out of his home a while back....It is not the first time...and he threatened divorce often...I was doing ok for a while and then it all hit at once as usual....I guess since the baby will be here soon I will have to face him again and I do not want to break down in front of him. I have not spoken with him in over a month now and I am finally settling in to being alone and all and it is harder because I do love him and never expected this to happen.<BR>I do not even know where to begin with the divorce process or custody. I will not deny him rights to his child I just am not ready to face the man that I love dearly right now. I thought I was a lot tougher than what I am being at the moment. <P>Has anyone ever been in this situation or someone who might be able to offer advice? I know that this board is not for spouses and their own children I understand it is for those awful people that do things that should NEVER happen...I usually post on the divorce board and someone suggested coming over here for advice thinking that someone else here may have been in this situation.<P>I just need some input I am scared to death...I love my Husband dearly I just think he wanted his freedom to do as he wishes without anyone or anything to stop him. I want my marriage to come back together but, I have no idea where to start...Please any advice would be greatly appreciated.<P>K<BR>

Dear Moving,<BR>Kicked you out of HIS home?<P>Isn't it both your homes?<P>Read all you can here on the Harleys principals.<BR>It will give you insight as to keeping the marriage intact.<P>Do you have relatives to help you? Friends? You have a baby on the way and will need a support system.<P>I will pray for you. I hope things calm down. As far as H wanting "freedom"...do you think he's having an A ?<P>Bless you Moving.<P>love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Debi<P>First thank You so much for your response. It is appreciated sometimes you feel so alone in this world and that no one cares. When you recieve a reply and someone actually seems to care and or understand it helps a great deal.<P>Yes out of his familys home.....(nice I know) I coud have waited for him to evict me but the harshness was to dificult to handle and my son sure did not need to see that.<P>And yes I am living with my family at the moment until this bundle of joy is brought into this world...just not the support system I need right now. They do not understand and basically I am unable to talk with them about it. But, atleast it is a start and my son and I are not in the streets. And my family is doing the best they know how they just are tired of me always making mistakes like this.<P>I will not be the one to file for the divorce I am in no hurry but, I do need some sort of help from him. I feel since he is the one who wants one it is his responsibility to file.<P>Affair...by now quite possibly, he always said he could not be alone. Which he would not think of it that way because we are not living toghether and all...(he said it would not be cheating one time before when this happened) It is sad to say that I think he is because that is the only thing I think would give him the push to go on like I nor my son ever existed. It hurts to think about and I dream about it often...womens instinct who knows....<P>Thank You so much though...I know I am not on the right board necessarily and I am terribly sorry to see all of you going through what you are....I just thought someone here may have been through this too. Seeking advice and help.<P>I just pray for everyone and hope that things do getbetter for everyone. I just wish people took their vows seriously and did not go out and cheat lie and steal from their mates. It is a sad world we love in sometimes.<P>God Bless and Thank YOU <P>K

Dear K,<BR>Yes it is a sad world sometimes...we must do what we can to create our own happiness and peace.<P>I will pray for you. Yes, a woman knows. I think that's why he's pushing you out too.<P>Try divorce.com I think they have a message board.<P>Or right here in divorced/divorcing.<P>love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....