Hi,<P>Mr. Job and I got up at 2:30 in the morning to call Nelly, but she wasn't at her desk and she has no type of voice mail nor does anyone answer her phone when she is not there.<P>So, I got up at 7:00 and called her myself, (I tried to wake Mr. Job, but he wouldn't budge.) Nelly told me that the boys are still at the orphanage and that they are OK. She did not call the orphanage directly but spoke to the <BR>deputy director of adoptions for the state who checked on the boys. <P>Nelly was told that she must wait until October 8th until the under-deputy director of adoptions comes back from vacation to pursue the issue any further. So we are to call back on 10/8 to see where things stand. I think that in the mean time, we need to contact a different agency and get a home study done--quickly!<P>You don't all have to respond that you are keeping our adoption in your prayers and thoughts. I know that. It must get monotonous saying that one over and over again. I will just ask you to keep us in prayer and assume that you are.<P>MJ<BR>

Dear Mrs. Job,<P>I was happy to read that the boys could still be available! I truly hope and pray that everyting goes well, and you can find another agency who will do another home study. Do you know everything that you need to tell them this time? I believe that I read that you hadn't said anything about Precious to them last time. Is that something that could come up and bite you in the ... if it is not mentioned this time. What are you going to do about the info that stopped you guys last time?<P>Just some questions to know exactly how to pray <P>Love,<P>Tigger

Tigger,<P>Great questions. We still don't have all the answers. We will handle the tire kicking incident and the resulting fingerprints quite openly. <P>As for Precious, the A, and my resulting hospitalization, I have no idea. Our counselor is a social worker and used to work in adoptions. He has said that when we came up against this issue again, by applying for a new home study, that he will help us work out what to say. <P>Regarding Precious and A, there are no records other than a birth certificate in a state 2,000 mile away. They have never been to court, so there are no court records.<P>I think our biggest stumbling block is going to be my hospitalization for depression due to the A and OC. I signed myself in so there are no public records, just my medical records and insurance records. I am quite certain that my family doctor will not report my hospitalization. The form he must fill out only asks if I am currently under his treatment for depression or any mental illness. The answer to those are no.<P>The issue is that I am going to be asked if I have ever been hospitalized for a mental illness and depression qualifies. Answering "yes" to that opens up the whole can of worms about why I went to the hopsital. It is also usually considered an immediate disqualification. <P>We are in this mess because although we didn't actually lie the last time around, but we were deliberately walking that narrow knife edge between truth and lie. I think we fell on the right side of that knife edge, but I also can't help feeling that we are learning (or supposed to be learning) a lesson here about honesty and openess. <P>I don't know. The thought of losing this boys a second time around is terrifying.<P>MJ