So far my positive thinking has been working for me and us. However, today I had a very scary thought. My sister picked our Sunshine from the sitter. When I went to pick her up, sis was telling me how a mutual friend was going through a real tough time with her daughter's father. They separated and she is asking for cs. He doesn't want to pay so he has called in his police friends/lawyers and sued her for sole custody because he doesn't want to pay cs. He told friend that if she doesn't ask for cs, he won't proceed. Anyway that's not what bothered me. According to sis, this friend is due in court sometime this week. The 16th or 17th. AGH!!! The same day as H's next court date! In the same court house. <BR>No one knows of our situation except his sister. I freaked. I didn't know how to react. I tried so hard to get my sister to remember the date, but she couldn't. So, panicked, I offered to go to court with her to watch D while she was inside (if it's during the Jewish holiday when I am off from work.) That way I would know the exact date. <BR>If it turns out to be the same day as H I don't know what I will do. We've managed to keep all of this to ourselves (my choice). <BR>I told H how I was feeling. I don't think he realizes how badly this makes me feel. I don't want anyone to know. It's hard enough dealing with my knowing. <BR>I'm trying to keep that positive head on until I know for sure that I have something to worry about. <BR> <BR>I am praying that the dates are different. Hopefully God has given me all that he has thought I can handle.

HMY,<P>I can understand your need for privacy. But if your unfortaunate to have to go to court on the same day as your friend keep your head held high! And remember you did nothing wrong. Everyone knows about my H exOW and OC her doing of course. I have no privacy what so ever. I hate it most of the time. But I know I did nothing wrong H made the decsion to sleep with a physco and didn't protect us from this shameful hurful situation. I refuse to cow down as if I did something wrong. There are probably other people you know who are going through worst things than this. Your in my prayers and thoughts and remember God won't give you what you can't handle.<P>Unsure<BR>