Well my husband had an affair on me. And his sweetheart got pregnant and had his baby. Now I have had two pregnancies, first one ended in miscarriage and the second one with a still birth. It hurts that he would do something like this. But it hears even more that he got her pregnant, and we don't even have any kids yet. We have been married for two years. The little boy comes around, and I find myself getting angry all the time. I don't know if I can take it anymore. Sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy. What should I do.

you should let you h know how you feel. if it is hurting you to see this child, stop seeing the C immediately. if your h is not willing to stop seeing the C at least he could meet the C somewhere else. if h can't do either then you need to make a decision as to if you want to stay with a h who has already hurt but on top of that wants to continue to hurt you. hope all works out, let me know what your h says. how old is the C--how long since DD

Lakelle,<BR>Please read some of the information here on MB.<P>Your H should not be seeing that child w/o your approval!<P>You and your marriage should come first then deal w/c later if you can.<P>I'm sorry for your pain and anger. It's natural to feel that way. I hope you can let H know your feelings in a non-threatening way. Tell him of your hurt and anger. Do not keep it in as it will destroy any happiness you deserve, bless you.<P>love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Lakelle,<P>I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation. How long was the affair, is it over? Did you ever tell H how you feel about OC? I know you want your marriage to last but you have to tell H how you feel about OC. I hope you have better luck the next time you try to conceive. It's must be hard losing a child. I agree with Debi tell your H in a non-threatening way. I know I wouldn't be able to go through this if H didn't know how I felt and wasn't compassionate about my feelings.<P><BR>Unsure

Dear Lakelle,<P>I am so sorry you find yourself in this situation. It is a gut wrenching heart breaking thing to go through. I suggest, if you havent already, reading all Harley's principles. They are some wonderful guidelines. Cd is right, you should not have to deal with this if it is not something you are ready to take. You may never be ready to take it and that is ok. This child was created with out your input, now why in the world should you be EXPECTED to deal with it. And obviously if you are getting angry every time the child is around you are not ready to deal with it. I pray that you are able to keep the anger from the oc itself. How old is the child? How long have you known? Feel free to tell whatever you feel like telling here. This is a safe haven for your feelings and you will get honest caring reactions and some wonderful advice. I am sorry for your personal losses. <P>As for your marriage itself....if both of your are willing to deal with pain and anger and move on from it when you are ready your marraige can be successful. I celebrate my 5 yr anniversary on Friday. I am two and a half years past dday. We are doing great.<P>Prayers for you and your family. <P>Love in Christ<P>broken_wings