I am looking for insight as to what I should expect now.<BR> A liitle history. <BR>W is now on her way home from her 5th trip to new orleans, were om lives. She has come to the conclusion that she is ready to work on m and to break any and all contact w/ om, she's not sure which om shes preg by. She can now say that she loves me, she now wants to hug me, she now wants to be home and stay home. She realizes that we have issues to work through, oc being the biggest hurdle. I told her I still look forward to being oc daddy, even though I can't be the F. Her comment is that I've always been a good daddy. Well I've got a good day to prepare till she gets home, she driving home 1200+ miles, so I am looking to see if there is anything I should do to prepare. I've got the house as clean as possible and bought her favorite snacks and health foods, planning on buying her a rose. Do you have any other ideas? I am guessing that she is now ready for me to court her, she wasn't before.<P>thanks and God bless,<BR>knight

You are soooo sweet. I hope that everything goes well. I think you deserve a huge pat on the back and a wife who appreciates all your giving. Wishing you all the best!!!<P>Any other ideas???? It sounds to me as if you have taken care of every detail! What's left? Keep being your sweet self. WOW! My hat's off to you!<P>What to expect next? Expect the very best because it sounds to me like you are giving your very best...<p>[This message has been edited by BINthereDUNthat (edited September 18, 2001).]

knight?mare,<BR>I'll guess that you're a little nervous. It sounds as if the biggest battle is over....OM.<BR>Just let her have a safe place to say what she needs to say without being angry.<P>I like the rose idea. <P>H and I share snacks at night when we're alone and talk about our day together. It's a way to re-connect.<P>I'll pray for you today. Bless you.<BR>Love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Thanks for your replys and your prayers,<P>W should be home either around midnight or early Weds, I'm a little nervous about the fog coming back in, but the tone of her voice and what shes been telling me have been positive for a week and a half, even before she ran it seemed as if the fog was lifting. I will try to make this a safe place for her to be, it will be a lot easier now that she wants her m and her family.<P>knight

Knightmare,<P>I really hope your wife realizes what a wonderful husband she has to make such an effort in her homecoming.<P>I agree, you need to give her a safe place to speak her mind and heart. It'll be hard to keep those "ugly" thoughts and questions out of your head. At least initially stiffen the desire to probe to hard. Wait until you can get in a safe couseling session to ask those questions.<P>As far as the courting. something my H did after d-day to make me feel special was buying me a rose a day. It lasted a couple of months until we had a huge blow up and set back. But while it lasted I felt like a queen.<P>Women love pampering. How about a day at the spa, ended with a special "picnic" dinner by candlelight on the living room floor! I personally would choose lobster meat and champagne. But that's my preference!<P>Lay it on thick, we love that stuff!<P>Good luck, and keep us posted.<P>Z.<P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.