Dear Friends, <P>Sorry that I haven't post lately. <P>I want to thank all the ladies in this forum for your support and concern. I am glad that CD, let you know that I am ok. The reason I didn't post sooner is that emotionally I was not capable. I have also been glue to the television like most Americans due to the recent tragedy. My heart goes out to every family who lost a love one. <P>I am feeling much better than the last time I post. I almost had a nervous breakdown, from h second betrayal. <BR>The second betrayal hurts more than the first one, because one will think that this person has learned their lesson. Everynight I pray that ow is not pregnant again, and that she's lying. I don't know how will I handle a second oc. We have not heard from ow so far, since the last month when I sent her an email.<P>However H and I are speaking more. I can feel that h is being honest with me for the very first time. I can ask him questions about the affair and oc and he does not try to evade my questions, even if the responses hurt. In the past he will not answer my questions, and I will start obsessing about the affair. <P>H has admitted to seeing oc behind my back. I should trust more my intuition. A couple of months back I did post that I had suspicions that h was seeing oc. I couldn't have been more right. He was also not honest from day one since I found out about the affair back in November. <P>H and I started going to counseling again. Our first counseling session was last week, it was a disaster. Too much resentment and anger,that need to be work on. Nobody says that it was going to be easy. H is willing to go to counseling together.<P>I am also taking care of me. <P>with love Mina,<P><BR>

Mina, Good to hear from you. Hope all turns out well for you. You keep taking care of you. with love flowerseed

mina, i'm new to the board and my heart goes out to you. i soooo glad you are taking care of you. good luck to you and you h with therapy.

Mina I am sooo glad to hear from you. Bless you. Prayers.<BR>Love<BR>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Dear Mina,<P>I am so very glad you posted. It is also nice to hear you are feeling at least a little itty bit better. I have been praying for you nightly. And all involved really. It sounds like it is at least a step in the right direction that H is now being totally honest with you. Keep treating yourself right.<P>Love<BR>bw

Hi Mina, <BR>It's really good that your H is willing to go to counseling and hear you out. I think that is a step in the right direction. I also believe you just have to take as much time as needed to get through the pain all this infidelity has created for you & your kids. Hey, if mom isn't happy, then NOBODY in the house has a chance at being happy!<P>Mina, if you don't mind my asking, how you are coping with all this, I mean what sort of things are you doing to take care of yourself through this?

Mina, <BR>I am glad to hear you are doing better. The joint counselling is a step in the right direction. I know the first couple of our joint sessions I felt were a disaster also, but out of those sessions some of the therapist's advice has helped me cope. If after each session I can take with me something positive to work on we can survive. As for the second oc, that is what I am dealing with myself, it is overhelming sometimes, but not impossible. Day by day. <BR>Tina

Dear Friends, <P>Thank you for your support.<P>Flowerseed, I am also hoping that everything turns out well,<BR>at least I have to my advantage that ow move to Florida and no longer lives in NY.<P>lemonpie, Thank you for your support, I have read your story. I want to welcome you. You will find a lot of support in this forum this ladies are amazing.<P>Gem, Thanks for your support and prayers. Congratulations, with your future grandaughter/grandson. I also read your story about the twins it was very funny.<P>brokenwings, Thankyou for having me in your thoughts, and prayers. Good luck with your school.<P>Bintheredunthat,<BR>The way I am coping with all this, I have made the choice that I will not let this situation control me anymore or at least I am trying to. I am keeping my self busy these days, with work and my children. My children do keep me busy with their school work. I also went back to the Gym something that I always enjoy is working out, but this last couple of months I did not had the ability or the motivation to do. I am also reading books on how to lower my credit and manage my budget. It sounds silly but this is something that I enjoy reading and months back I will not have been able to do. <P>Tina, <BR>My first counseling session with h was a disaster. H and I will have our second counseling session tomorrow. I understand what you say.<BR>I have follow your story. I can imagine how overwhelming can be dealing with two child. I know there is another lady in this forum that also has to deal with two oc. I just can't imagine, if h xow is pregnant again how will I react, there is no way of knowing for sure. Ow has not contact us, and she now live in Florida. I am afraid that if ow is really pregnant she's waiting to surprise us with a paternity and child support order. I will cross that road when the times comes. <P>with love mina<P><p>[This message has been edited by mina29 (edited September 26, 2001).]

Mina,<P>I just wanted to say I'm glad your doing better and take it slow. Deal with other OC situation if it comes back up. Your in my thoughts and prayers.<P>Unsure

Dear Mina,<P>It was so good to see your post! I'll keep you in my<BR>prayers that the ow is lying. Please continue to take<BR>the best care of yourself. Good luck with your counseling.<BR>It means alot that your H will go...maybe this woke him up.<P>Best wishes for you Mina! Love, fluke