OW is taking us to court again she want's more CS. <BR>Her unemployment ran out. Can she do that? Will H have to pay more CS is because she's too lazy to get a job. Do they count the CS the other two fathers are paying as income? I'm thinking about getting a CS order. Did any of you get one after OW had her's. I have to protect my family we are just making it. If we have to pay her anymore money things will be really tight. I wished I would have at least insisted on the legal seperation and get <BR>my CS order in. H felt like I was LB's and didn't look at it as me trying to protect our family. He still thinks he can contest the modifcation. She's doing this because he hasn't seen OC. Hello you keyed up our car!!!!! You had security looking at me like my 16 mth daughter and I were carrying guns!! LOL I needed to vent. I'm trying to stay up beat today. I had an emotional break down yesterday. Monday we got a letter from the IRS they are taking our rebate check.<BR>Yesterday I got the papers from the court. I was so pissed I made myself sick. I couldn't beleive I let her get me that upset. I couldn't even go to work today. I'm calling a C today. I thought the religous sessions H and I were having every Sunday was enough. I think I need to heal me. I'm afraid to take something (anti-depressants) I don't want to depend on a pill. NO offense to those who are taking them, I don't like to take medicine. I'm not a pill taker. Now all you old timers (people who have been doing this a long time) will I react to every situations this way. I love my H but I don't want to deal with this for the next 18 years. Sometime I wished I would have bailed out. I mean D-day was a year ago why am I still hurting this way? I'm PMS'ing that might be a factor. Any support you can give is needed today. Thanks all for letting me vent.<P><BR>Unsure <P>P.S. I feel like OW will not win if I choose to leave this situation do any of you agree? I know that sounds weird but I know her main goals was get me to leave H. Nevermind as I read what I'm typing it sounds stupid. She will succeed she wouldn't care if H didn't get back with her as long as he isn't with me she'll be happy. I'm not planning on kicking my H out right now. I do love him, I am in love with him but I can't take this. I don't want to live the rest of my life dealing with a crazy vindictive woman. I'm 29 life is too short to be dealing with this crap. It's like I'm wondering everyday what's she going to do this week. Those of you that have been in recovery for a long time how did you deal with crazy OW's. I make sure she's never seen me ruffled except that one time in court and I composed myself quick. I've never let her seeen me sweat what more can I do. I've totally ignored all her antics. I'm rambling but I'm very upset. Any and all advice is needed. <P><p>[This message has been edited by UNSure919400 (edited September 26, 2001).]

Dear Unsure,<P>I don't have any advice, I just wanted to let you know that I will pray for you, and your peace of mind.<P>Love,<P>Tigger

UNSure, I know what your feeling I was crazy with anger to when I recently found out our rebait check was taken also.<BR> I think what gets me going so bad is that because the ow lost she use's the courts to get at our family and the friend of the court is more then happy to help them. It is all to do with being losers and yes I do think they believe they might get a chance with our h if they can piss us off enough to leave. I have not been going through this very much longer then you have it will be 2 yrs Oct. I still get sick every time one of them letters arrive.<BR> I dont think I stay nearly as mad as I did with the first harressments from the courts. If its any help it seems to go away sooner. This spring will be the 2yr mark when the ow can have my h reviewed. I didnt file for support but put the business we just started and anything to do with money in a seperate account in my name only. If I have to I will also file for support. Hang in there you,ll feel better soon just having someone to holler to about it really helps. with love flowerseed

Hi unsure,<BR>There are ways in some states to file for cs after ow has filed for hers. I'd be glad to fill you in when I get a chance - which probably won't be until saturday or sunday. I'll write more on it then.<BR>-cd

Thank's all for replying. After having a weepy day yesterday I'm feeling a lot better. H came home and was very attentive and playful. He didn't watch any sports wanted to relax with me and the baby cooperated and went to sleep early. So I had a good night last night and fell asleep in my H arms. <BR>This A.M. I told him I still wanted to get a CS order. He wasn't happy about it but I told him I wouldn't have the money taken out of his pay check just get the order to protect us. I told him after all this time he should realize I'm not trying to get him. He used to think I was saying I was going to give him a second chance and then do something to dupe him or tell him I've changed me mind. He said do what you feel you have to do. I live in CT and I was told you can live with your H nd still get CS. Does anyone live in CT? Do you guys think I'm wrong for getting the CS order? He's not happy about it. I told him if I dumped you I would get CS anyway, so it's not like I'm trying to get something I wouldn't already be entitled to. I thought about how that sounded on my way to work it wasn't tactful but I was just trying to get him to understand that I still trust him, but I have to protect our family first. He still kissed me good bye so he wasn't pissed. <P>Tigger and Flowerseed thanks for your prayers and thoughts I appreciate the support. Cd- I would love any advice you can give.<P><BR>Unsure

Hey Unsure, sorry to hear of your problems. I've had my refund and rebate check taken too.....I'm there with you. You still may want to think about antidepressants though. I don't like taking meds either and I resisted for two years......my two years since d-day. I've been on this rollercoaster too long. In July I started on Zoloft after my doctor did some testing and told me I was depressed (like I didn't know). I said I would try it for a few weeks (I was pretty skeptical) and you know what...I feel like the old me! I seem more in control of my emotions instead of them controlling me. You really might want to just try them and see if they will work for you, even if it's just for a short time. It might be just what you need to get through this tough time now. Hope things get better!

Dacasarest,<P>Thanks for replying. I made an appointment with a C today. I'm going to try C and see how things work out. If I need anti- depressants I might try something. I'm normally on a high when exOw leaves us alone H and I have no problems but as soon as she pulls one of her antics. I start thinking crazy things. Again thank you for the support it was really needed.<P><BR>Unsure<P>Unsure