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#804634 10/12/01 12:37 AM
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Ok, I am going to try this again. I wrote this long post about what is going on and then my puter froze. ugh.<P>Anyways, the day this site went down (of course) ow emailed me. She apologized for all the pain she put me through and told me she had turned to the Lord and He has turned her life around.<P>This is all the short version since my poor little fingers are now worn out<P>She is married now and has been for a little over a year. The new H wants to adopt oc. He has already adopted her older one. He is in the military and left less than 3 weeks ago for Korea. The tour is a year long, but in the middle of it he comes home for about a month. I am guessing this will be around March. If my H relinquishes his rights before then her H hopefully will be able to do his part while he is here for that month.<P>Ow is just tickled pink that my H cares enough about oc that he is doing the best thing for her. She is also open to keeping the lines of communication open so there can be some sort of relationship between us and oc, but just wants oc to have a full time daddy.<P>I have checked out the adoption laws in her state and once the adoption papers are submitted my H's rights will be terminated forever and that does include cs.<P>Please pray this is the Lords will and everything will go quickly and smoothly.<P>I also feel 100% better after she said she was sorry. She said it broke her heart to think of the pain I must have been in and that she was the one who did it. She sounds so sincere. I pray she is. <P>What do you guys think?! Is the Lord awesome or what?! I say "AWESOME"!! <P>Love and Prayers,<P> bw [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img]

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bw,<BR>Thank the Lord, Amen, Hallaluya!! I'm very happy for you (and a wee bit jealous [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img])

#804636 10/12/01 02:18 AM
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Hey, That's great!<P>I was wondering what the laws are. If my W gets prego by OM, is it my child legally? Can I be listed on the birth certificate? Do they assume that the H is the father? Just in case, I'd like to know.<P>Thanks,<P>-AD

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Wow, that sounds like the best thing for the OC and the best thing for your marriage. Great news, broken_wings!<P>I'm in agreement with your prayers for everything to go smoothly. Will be praying for OC's mom's marriage to remain healthy and intact for years to come also... God has blessed you all!

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BW,<P>That's great news! I will pray that things work out for what's best for the child.<P>Love,<P>Tigger

#804639 10/12/01 06:05 AM
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Hey BrokenWings,<P>I am so happy for you and everyone concerned!<BR>Thankfully, there are people who can change<BR>and see the error of their ways!<BR>What a relief for you guys!<BR>Take care, Fluke

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I just wanted to say Congrats!!! I hope things go smoothly.<P><BR>Unsure [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

#804641 10/12/01 10:49 AM
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I am simply delighted for you [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<P>One word of caution: please make absolutely certain that the ow's husband files a petition to adopt oc BEFORE your h signs away his rights. Otherwise, your h could lose all rights and still be held accountable for cs.<P>I mention this ONLY because this was the lying filthy scheme our ow tried to pull - she told us her fiance was going to marry her and adopt oc, but in reality she wanted h to lose his rights and still be able to collect cs.<P>I am sure that your ow is not as freakily evil as ours, but please proceed with caution anyway.<P>Aside from that, good luck. I am so happy that it is working out like this for you!<BR>with love,<BR>cd

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I am happy for you, please keep me posted on how things turn out for y'all!<P>Hugs,<BR>Twiisty

#804643 10/12/01 09:13 PM
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Everyone..thanks for your congrats.<P>She is now wanting our address to send the papers and I am a little leary to give it to her. Our mailing address is not our physical address, but I am sure our mailman knows where to find us. I think there is no reason for us to have to sign for these papers right. So maybe I give her my address and then if it is sent certified we do not sign. Should I set up a pobox just for her? I would have to stall somehow until Monday to do that. <P>I have the last minute jitters. Cold feet. I am nervous about this. Keep praying.

#804644 10/12/01 09:30 PM
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Brokenwings, I didnt go night night yet. I think the p.o. box is a good idea. She can wait till monday I would think. <BR> with love flowerseed

#804645 10/12/01 11:00 PM
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Broken Wings,<BR> God is awesome. I trust that he will make a way for all of us here. It is difficult for me, but lets pray that our OW is caught up by the Lord as well and stops making our lives unbearable. <P>Thank God for his mercy.


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