I have noticed that there are a lot of newbies here that are still raw and lost in this mess of all messes. This is also an update for those who know me and my situation. The Lord is ever faithful to those who truely truedly trust.<p>Quick recap of my situation: just celebrated 5th anniversary in Sept. Oc turned 2 in Oct. We have never seen oc, except for a few pics. At first we were a contact family. Then ow crossed the line and got completely cut off. That is, we changed our # to a private one and she flipped her lid. Up until that point we had been paying her child support and were planning to continue. She just couldnt stand not talking to my H at least every other day. She threatened his sister to sue us for an outrageous child support amount if H didnt call her. We still didnt call, so she did. And it was not a correct amount. We hired a lawyer in her state and sued for joint custody bc the papers she had sent she said H had supervised visitation only. Oh, of course, supervised by her. She I guess got scared and dropped her own case, so we pretty much said screw her. I contacted her thru email later to let her, know that there were clothes and what not on the way to her house. She emailed me back and informed me that she had moved and had not left a forwarding address and didnt feel "comfortable" with giving us her new address. So , we left it at that.<p>At first I prayed for ow just bc I thought I was supposed to. Most of all I prayed for oc and her older sister who also had no "father". These girls were also the ones who would be suffering for their mother's stupidity and selfishness. After a while, I felt the need to pray for her more and more even though basically we had no contact except for a few instances thru email (her and I). It will have been 3 yrs since my first d-day in April. I prayed she would come to find the Lord and would be surrounded by christians and would find a good christian man to marry and be a daddy to these fatherless girls.<p>Ow emailed me a few weeks ago and apologized for all the pain she was the cause of. THis is something she had never even come close to doing. She always had the attitude that I was the one who ruined her life and that I should be sorry for her. Anyways she told me that needless to say she was not walking with God at the time and she was just thinking of herself. She said she had no where to turn and so turned to God and He turned her life around. She asked for forgiveness from me. She said she had already asked the Lord and He forgave her but she had felt convicted to write me.<p>I wrote her back and told her I had been praying for her and I was so happy to hear she now had God in her life and I forgave her.<p>After several more emails I discovered that she was married now and had been for a little over a year. This was a christian man she had married and he had already adopted her older daughter and wanted to adopt oc. We agreed. (needless to say to you guys) The courts sent us the papers last week and the day after we had gotten them we had them signed by H, notarized and in the mail back to the courts. It was his acknowledement of paternity and the waiver to allow her new H to adopt oc.<p>The wait is now all to come since ow's H is in Korea right now. So he will not be able to finish his part of the adoption until he comes in mid-tour (@ march I am guessing). So we are now praying it all goes well and quickly. <p>Isnt it wonderful!! I finally trusted fully and the Lord's will was for the oc and ow to grow up in Him and for us to do the same. It has been a long hard ride and I am sure it is not over, but we have definately been blessed.<p>At first I was not even gonna post this, I guess bc I would have not been able to help being a little jealous, but one of the other MBers whom I chat with, a very smart lady, advised that it could give encouragement. This is a possibility I never thought would happen. Never in a million years. So, I guess, if it can happen to me it can happen to anyone. At least to someone else. I pray this blessing goes out to every single one of you who would gladly accept it into their lifes.<p>Love and Prayers,<p>bw [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

BW,
Thanks for posting your testimony of God's faithfulness.
It does encourage me, as I have been led by God to pray for OW and OC, even though we are not having contact at all, EVER.(Unless the Lord advises).
I do pray for OW to find a decent man in her life that she can truly call her own and that would love and cherish her and her child. Lord willing, like in your case, adopt.
I just have to trust the Lord for enough light for the step I am on now. It isn't easy, I falter quite a bit, but I am thankful that you shared. It does give me hope.
I am now really going into warfare prayer for court and praying that the Lord would direct the Judge's heart and all involved into something that benefits OC as well as the four children and myself at home.
I know it isn't OC's fault. I feel sorry for her.
BUt I pray for her health, salvation and that she would know God early in her life.
I pray that she will find a good daddy who would want to adopt her.
Thanks for sharing and showing me that praying isn't in vain. I am gaining a christian husband out of this (he gave his life to Christ the night OW called to tell me "the good news".)
I will have to trust God...I have nothing left to lean on. God has brought me to my knees too.
I truly pray that good will come out of this.
Trusting in the Lord...(and still trying not to be scared as our courtdates approach 11/2 and 11/13).
Leaning on HIM,
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Twiisty
(Debbie)

Thank you for posting this b-w. Beautiful.<p>Thank you Jesus, for b-w's faith and healing. May we all feel it in our lives.

What a wonderful story. For you to pray for her salvation you must have a close relationship with Christ. I don't know if I will ever be able to do that for the A hole that my W was with. As you can see I am still angry about the A.

Champ:
I can understand the anger. I feel anger about the A as well. I go up and down.
Praying for you,
twiisty