Well, H and I had the twins all weekend. It went pretty well considering. I was really nervous. But H was great. Our kids were thrilled as they see the twins as playthings at this point. H made sure I was ok and I wasn't sure I would be until they got here. They are so sweet and they look a lot like H. OW handled it well. She did call Saturday night to see how they were and she and I made small talk. I am happy that she has been as decent as she has. my H DID deceive her and it can't be easy for her to see us together yet she has not made any trouble. I have some socialite type friends who have put their noses up, saying they cannot understand why I am beign nice to these kids. Honestly, I try to look at the good in everything and I have become a nicer person because of these little ones. No longer do I care about my social life and I now see that that was all just an escape from the marital problems H and I were both avoiding. I can't believe it but this HAS brought us together.

ROTFLMAO<p>Thanks for the great laugh suzi/secret lover!<p>If any of you want to see more of BonnieBB/Suzi/Secret lover great fiction go to www.affairs-help.com forum for single having affair and read secret lovers posts.<p>[ November 05, 2001: Message edited by: KalGrl ]</p>

Are you new Cow Girl? Don't recin I seen your posts here bafor.

BBB,<p>You say your friends dont see how you can be nice to these children....Im not sure I could ever be mean to them, ya know. No matter how uncomfortable I might be if the oc was in front of me she would never never never see me as mean. I think I work the opposite though, when I am sad and just bowled over with the situation I tend to turn it into kinda a lovey mushy thing with kids. So oc might see me as strange, but I could never ever be mean. Do your friends have kids?<p>Question: did your ow know H was married during the affair?

As anyone can see, Kalgirl has been registered here since 1999. <p>BonnieB, you have a new story every visit. And I have a hard time imagining you are so kind to children when you are so cruel to other women on this board--it just doesn't seem like your style. Your posts do not seem to ring with truth. You come here with an axe to grind and I still don't know what your real agenda is. <p>Broken wings, you come off very kindly. I don't usually reply to BB as a waste of time.

Jenny,
Amen to that!

BB<p>I checked out Secret lover on the other forum and you have the same writing style and way with words. <p>Last month I invited you to contact me (you have never responded to me or any of my posts or requests) so we could get a moderator to put all these accusations against you to rest. I asked you to do this so you would not be unjustly condemned. You blew me off.<p>When you accuse us on this site of being a clique, I have decided you are absolutely right. We are a clique, a huge, enormous clique where every single member is accepted...except you! You are the ONLY person that comes here that is not accepted into our clique, and I think that is a shame.<p>Please, BonnieB...let's put this to rest. Let's find out if you are legit via moderator or find somewhere else to post where your input style doesn't hurt traumatized women. If it ends up you are who you say you are, I will be the first to apologize...and I rarely apologize to anyone about anything.<p>Viva le'clique<p>Catnip =^^=

Ladies & Gentlemen (in case I missed one)<p>I just know you're all going to "Play Nice! <p>Let's not allow this thread to get off in a bad direction like some of the other threads have gotten. It's imperative that we treat one another with respect! Possibly we should not interject our point of view or opinions when they aren't wanted. The purpose of these forums is to help and support one another. When we can't do that in a clear conscience, then perhaps we shouldn't add to a thread at all?

Bonnie,
I am truly glad things worked out for you. I admire your courage for trying to make things work out for the best for all.
I am glad this is bringing your family closer together too.
As for your socialite friends, who cares what they think? What matters is what is best for your family.
God bless you,
Twiisty [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]