birth date has long past and no word since request
to sign away rights a few weeks before due date.
how do we find out if h is on birth certificate?
or if there has been a birth at all. is it better
to just lie low, it does'nt look like there is much chance to get custody for the father. birth was supposedly in pa, we live in nc. lawyer is so expensive and doesn't think much point to trying to find out anything because we can't. i have trouble being in this situation not knowing. any help would be great, how does one proceed from here.
windfall [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]

Hi
You don't have contact with ow? I am trying to do the same thing but she is not answering our questions? Please let me know what you find out. I will keep you in my prayers. Keep the faith.. Take Care...

oh yeah, you can find some info on family law on the internet, I found one for california law and the atty actually posts some legal insight to people's questions..but he doesn't hand out legal advice of course...
http://www.jprlawcorp.com/cgibin/childsupport/index.html<p>[ November 12, 2001: Message edited by: confused-cious:says ]</p>

Aren't birth certificates public records? Can't you just check with the county?<p>I don't know. I'm just asking.<p>Also, this is probably different from state to state, but if your husband was not there at the birth his name is NOT on the birth certificate.<p>In my state (and in most states I think) If you are married then your husbands name goes on the certificate reguarless of who's child it is. If you are unmarried then the father has to be present and sign a paper that acknowledges paternity. Or the spot is left blank.<p>If you are unmarried and the father attends the birth but forgets or refuses to sign the acknowledgement of paternity then the father spot is left blank until paternity has been legally established.

RE: giving the child your husbands last name<p>you should know that she can give the child your husbands last name if paternity has not been established. Essentilaly you can make up any last name you want and give it to your child. If the mother has not elected to a last name, then the baby is given the last name of the mother.<p>So your H's name could NOT be on the birth certificate, but the child COULD still have your H's last name.

I went to the county here to get a peek at the birth certificate and they wouldn't let me because she's a single mom. If you're not married, then the papers aren't for public viewing. This is Wisconsin........

I'm guessing that the waiting game is a pretty big nightmare! I never thought about it.<p>I sent my son's father a birth announcement. Then again by the time the baby was born I was pretty pissed and was happy to torture him. [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Honestly, I think it's almost better not to know. Because you have NO idea when or if she will re-emerge. And if she come back will she keep you tied up in family court every time a stick breaks. I say let sleeping dogs lie.<p>I NEVER would have sued for paternity or for child support had my son's father and wife not continued to harass me. I did it to get back at them. Paternity was NEVER a question for me. They had their doubts though. I got sick of constant nasty notes, rumors, questions, etc. <p>I was not sleeping, had a newborn and frankly was tired of their inquiring minds. So I said, you want answers, answer this and I kept them tied up in court for a year [until I got tired of the game.]<p>My best advise, LEAVE HER ALONE!!!!!

windfall,
I think it depends on whether XOW lives in a state in which she can sue for BACK support later. That is a situation which can destroy people financially, when they came back year(s) later (see Mina's post too). I don't know about Penn. If she lived in NC, she couldn't sue for back support, and I'd say let them go, even though it is hard and unsettling.<p>So sorry. Best wishes,
J