Hello everyone<p>I'm new to this, I have always tried to deal with my problems alone. I feel that I need some help dealing with this. I have always known something was wrong, but had no idea that my husband would do something like this to me. I have two girls to rise and I don't know if I should stay or go. I have read and have listen to women who have left there husbands for less things and hear about the struggle to raise there children alone. I guess that I'm afaid that I will not be able to rise them alone. [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]

Please tell us more of your story. Realx if you can. You don't have to make any decision today or tomorrow or next week....not until you are ready. Take a deep breath and try to share with us what has happened. We're here.

Dear Angel,<p>You have come to the right place for support. Many of us know how you feel...and have never imagined that we could have been placed in our current situations...deciding to stay or go...hmmm..it's a tough call, is your h sorry/remorseful? What is the current situation with both oc's and ow? Whatever you decide, God is with you every step of the way..<p>((((Hugs))))

I found out about two months ago because I knew something was wrong and wanted to know the truth about what it was. I don't know all the details beacause he don't want to talk about it. One women with child lives close by and the other lives out of town. I don't know the ages of the children, but I do know that one has to be a last a year old. He is not sorry for what is has done but, says he is sorry about be getting hurt. He tells me that if I keep getting him upset behind this he will move out and get his own place away from the both of us. He say he didn't want to leave me and move in with her. He wants to rise his children and live his life. Married to him is a bunch of b_ _ S_ _ _ to many rules to live by. He is sorry he ever got married. He feels like he is a robot. He wants to go and come has he pleases. If he leaves me it not because of the other women and he feels she has her own issues with him. He also say he will is never going to live with other women in his life and will never ever get married to anyone again.

Can you guys get therapy? Would he ever agree to that? If not, I have to say I don't think this marriage is doing too much for you. You say you are worried about raising your girls alone. I think you may actually be able to do it better, and set an example for your children not to tolerate being treated this way. Love yourself. If he isn't sorry, there isn't too much to work with. What, are you supposed to just deal with it and keep quiet about it??? I don't think so. Can you talk to a therapist yourself? It may help give you the strength you need to move ahead. You BOTH have to want to save the marriage in order for it to work in a way that you can be happy with.

I'm dealing with a man that if it is not his way than it is no way. He is impossible. I don't think that he will listen to anyone because he feels that everyone want to control his life. I don't know how to deal with this anymore. I'm trying to hold on to what little I have in this relationship. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

Hi Angel, I agree with Bonnie, you both have to want to salvage the marriage..you are the one that was betrayed and still you are going more than halfway, he has to do his share too....if he feels that he wants to stay but then come and go as he pleases..that is not fair to you and your children.

I feel that I have been a good wife to him and I have did nothing wrong to him. I have giving him the respect that a wife should give to a husband. When I think about leaving I ask myself why should I leave my home that I work hard to have. I didn't have another man's child. I would like to know how the other women is dealing with him. I hope she out what she wanted. I would like to know if she is happy with him. At times I wish she was able to make him leave me and be with his new family. I guess me and the children are not good enough to have a happy home.