My husband and I have been married 5 months. We have been together for almost 5 years. I have known all along that he had a drug addiction. He smokes marijuana.
The problem I have is that when he asked me to marry him, he had resolved to quit smoking. He was busted on a drug test at work and is now forced to take drug tests every quarter at work. He lost 2 weeks of work (and money) and had to pay for counseling. So he had been clean for 2 weeks when he proposed. Things were really good.
Well, about 2 weeks before the wedding, he informed me that he was smoking again. At that point I didn't feel that I could cancel the wedding. I do love him. Then, our agreement was that he would not smoke in the house, and it would be much less than in the past. Then he started smoking in the house, and there's nothing I can say about it. We have money problems. I used to make twice as much as he did, but now, I'm a student and we're struggling. He spends $60-100 per month on his habit, plus $50-75 every time a drug test comes up trying to cover it up.
We have other problems, but I know that without solving this one there is no hope. We don't have kids yet, but I want them and don't want them to have a drug addict for a father.
Any advice? Thanks so much!

I agree that the pot smoking is a problem. What have you done to bring this to his attention and negotiate ending the habit?

Please read the Basic Concepts out here, you are going to need them to address this issue.

Any habbit that you like is hard to quit. I used to smoke pot every day but was able to quit very easy. All it took was wanting to have children and I said noway will my kids have a daddy that smokes pot. Prior to that, I had no real reason to quit. I liked it and saw no harm.
If your H sees no harm in it, he has no reason to quit.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Then, our agreement was that he would not smoke in the house, and it would be much less than in the past. Then he started smoking in the house, and there's nothing I can say about it. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Why is there nothing you can say about it. Wasn't he in on the agreement. He may get mad at you, but you need to let him know how you feel.
I had a friend that was addicted to worse things. It got to the point that my friends and I told him not to call us anymore until he quit. It took him less than a week and he never touched it again.