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#80598 12/17/03 12:55 PM
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I have a friend whose husband was wondering
Where in the bible it says to put your spouse before your children in the area of priorities?
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#80599 12/18/03 01:53 AM
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There is no specific verse that states that but if you check out all references to marriage or H's and W's you will see the inference. The M covenant is to be held in highest regard, other than a person's covenant relationship with Jesus Christ.

Also, from a practical standpoint the spouse should be a priority. The kids will eventually move out (hopefully) and then the M will be forced to survive or die based upon the cultivation of it over the years. If allowed, children will suck the love banks dry.

Check out my story under "Unusual Marriage Situation" to see the ramifications of placing children above spouse. God bless!

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The only thing I can think of is how the marriage relationship is a "covenant" and when you marry, you become "one flesh." Children LEAVE their parents (when they are older), but spouses are to stay together through life as "one flesh." We are not "one flesh" with children.

It says that a man is to "leave his father and mother and become one wiht his wife." There is a big difference in the parent/child relationship and that with the spouse.

Unfortunately, because of divorce, the lines are kinda blurred and spouses are now pretty "dispensible." But if we live according to God's Word and obey it, divorce is out of the question (as is adultery) and it is a realtionsip that is different from a parent/child relationship. Not less in importance, but different responsiblitites, etc.

If a spouse puts the children before the spouse, it can damage the marital relationship. A child's needs must be met and couples should not neglect their children in order to have a good marriage, but the marriage can/does suffer if a child's needs are placed above the marriage.

Those are the main verses I can think of.

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LoveMyEx - great insights and thank you!

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Thanks. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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children will also benefit greatly from being in a family with loving parents


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