I just wanted to share some good news for a change. I had my first solo meeting with a new psychologist. She was absolutely wonderful!!
H had his meeting with her first and thought she would possibly be a good match for me. He was right. <p>She seems to follow some of the basic MB concepts. She is a straight forward, no nonsense, take charge Dr. I can't wait till we have our first joint meeting. <p>She discussed all the things I have been trying to get across to H for the past 8 months. <p>We focused alot on the visitation problems we have been having, how to go about starting up again after putting off the past 3 weeks due to 3 yr. old not wanting to come to our house for visits. She said the same thing I had been telling H for the past month. "She's a three year old for gosh sakes, tell her what the visits will be, don't let her tell you" Also the OW has to be more cooperative, and tell the three year old something to the effect of "I know you are upset about going to see H and his wife, but they like to spend time with you and get to know you better, so H will pick you up at daycare". I could have kissed her right then and there. H and OW thought that visits should resume with out me included, and I was very upset about it.
She said that I was to be included, and not to avoid our house, but cut the visits shorter. <p>Works for me. She also said that we should be looking into Co-Parenting. She described it, and it seemed more of what I am comfortable with. More of a (as she put it) a business arrangement. So now I am hunting down material on co-parenting. Any reading material that any of you could recommend?<p>Tina
