I usually don't post about OW. She has been in the picture for the last 10 years that H and I have been together. They had 3 (2 living) children when we "re-met". Over the years I have seen her, etc...etc...<p>For months, or at least what seems like years to me I haven't had to talk to her. D-day for me was last July. I have not spoken to her since I found out. I've said all I have to say to H. I've never had a high opinion of her and have kept it to myself since she was the mother of his children. Well, after finding out about the affair all of that is out the window.<p>H and I have been working very hard on our marriage and things are going well. We had a lovely day yesterday. Just H, me and my adult daughter and 3 year old ds.<p>After too much turkey I guess, H laid down for a little nap. At 7:30 last night I got a phone call asking for H. I said he was sleeping and the person on the other line said, "oh, too much turkey?" I recognized the voice and asked who the caller was...it was OW. I simply said I have nothing to say to you and hung up the phone. It immediately rang again. I picked up the reciever and just hung it right up and then took the phone off the hook. Needless to say it upset me. She NEVER calls here (usually because she can't seem to find anymore names to have her phone turned on in!). I told H when he woke up and I was quite angry that she had the to NERVE to call here and talk to him...and talk with me like nothing happened. <p>At about 9:00 last night the phone rang again. It was a woman's voice. (I'm about 99% sure it wasn't OW) and asked for H. I asked who was calling and she said, "his girlfriend!" Again, I immediately hung up. I'm so postive she had a friend call to do that to upset me. It worked! I had so many fantasies about what I wanted to say, but I didn't want to give her any satisfaction. I would never stoop low enough to even talk to her.<p>When I told H he pretty much said nothing. This morning I told him how upset I was that he said nothing to me and he said he didn't know what to say. He hasn't called her (didn't know she even had a phone) and didn't ask her to call here. I told him he could have reassured me and just simply said he was sorry that it had happened. <p>Later this moring he did just that. <p>I am so angry that she did that to me last night. I let H know how low class that was.<p>I hope my rambling has made some sense. Thank you for letting me just get it out!<p>Take care,
Why<p>[ November 23, 2001: Message edited by: why ]</p>

Have you considered changing your phone number? I am wondering how long it will take before our OW finds our newest number and starts up. She's been quiet lately....
I am sorry you had such a hard time.
((((hugs)))) to you.
Twiisty [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

You know.... sometimes I envision my OW sitting in her cold lonely ugly apartment thinking about my H and I laying in our king size bed and goose down comforter, our kids sleeping like cherub angels in the next room and our dog sleeping at the foot of our bed in our suburban home with two cars out front and a refrigerator full of food.... and she gets pissed.<p>that is probably when she starts her [censored] with us.<p>Why, just take comfort that she does what she does out of her own misery and unhappiness. People like her want others to be as miserable as they are. And they especially don't want us wives to be happy with our husbands and they come up with all sorts of creative ways to try and ruffle our feathers.<p>And guess what... the best revenge is ... when they see they have no affect on us or our lives. <p>It steams the hair on my OW's mustache when she sees our lives rolling along smooth as silk.<p>Sit back and laugh at her. It's quite theraputic.<p>Z.<p>[ November 25, 2001: Message edited by: zebrababy ]</p>

Thank you ladies for your ear! <p>Yes, twisty I've thought of having my number changed but right now I'm not going to. Hopefully this won't continue to happen. <p>Zebralady thank you for the vision you gave me. It's so true. She is so worse off than I would ever allow myself to be. By choosing not to even talk to her I thought would really just make her angry that she didn't win!<p>She called back again last night and I gave H the phone. I know she was talking about me. I heard H say that I had given him the phone message and he didn't call her back because he didn't even know she had a phone number to call and; no, I don't have anything to say to her that's why I wouldn't talk to her. She's really got to be more stupid than I thought to think I'd want to talk to her. She called asking for her child support check. I know that was also an excuse. I saw a look of dismay of H's face. I wish he would have simply said, get to the point and then hung up! <p>I finally broke down last night and asked him if he was embarrassed to have had children with her and finally after all this time he said yes.<p>Sometimes I think so many of these little incidents seem trival to an outsider and I'm so glad to be able to come here and share my stories and have my feelings validated. Thank you all!<p>Take care,
Why